tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4858723771721649617.post3710526403998641716..comments2023-05-08T06:06:00.911-07:00Comments on Attract Your Soulmate: How to Turn a Bitch-Fest into a Shift-FestDr. Jennhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17033688263726004079noreply@blogger.comBlogger17125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4858723771721649617.post-1918092033185593832009-01-12T11:04:00.000-08:002009-01-12T11:04:00.000-08:00Cherry-You are so right!I love this that you said:...Cherry-<BR/><BR/>You are so right!<BR/><BR/>I love this that you said: we can only think one thought at a time- it's up to you whether it's negative or positive.<BR/><BR/>I agree- it's up to us to play the game of catching every downer and playfully engaging it's more upbeat cousin.<BR/><BR/>Your feelings are your biggest clues- as well as your attraction point.<BR/><BR/>Feel great- attract your soulmate much more quickly.<BR/><BR/>Feel bad- keep attracting jerks.<BR/><BR/>Your choice!<BR/>Keep choosing love, in every moment!Dr. Jennhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17033688263726004079noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4858723771721649617.post-40656244085785968732009-01-12T11:01:00.000-08:002009-01-12T11:01:00.000-08:00Catherine-Thanks for stopping by!! I love the exam...Catherine-<BR/><BR/>Thanks for stopping by!! <BR/><BR/>I love the examples you gave! The language we use, the thoughts we think, the perception we CHOOSE- is up to us in each and every moment. <BR/><BR/>And we can choose to move toward love, or away from love. I hope your woman client chose to move toward loving her husband, with an empathic thought that opens the door for connection!<BR/><BR/>Right on!Dr. Jennhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17033688263726004079noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4858723771721649617.post-86208774091295159492009-01-12T09:36:00.000-08:002009-01-12T09:36:00.000-08:00Great advice - AND...Whilst having a good moan can...Great advice - AND...<BR/><BR/>Whilst having a good moan can help get things off your chest, we can get into the habit of thinking negative thoughts. <BR/><BR/>We can only think one thought at a time so we can choose whether we want it to be a negative or a positive one.<BR/><BR/>I think it's a fun challenge to catch yourself thinking a negative thought then changing it into a positive one. e.g. Instead of "All the decent guys are taken" could be changed to "I only need one decent guy, and I'll meet him when the time is right" - or to whatever makes <I>you</I> feel better. <BR/><BR/>How we think affects how we feel! (Do an internal check on how you feel when you think a negative thought, and then how you feel when you think a positive one - it's amazing how the feeling changes! <BR/><BR/>Cherry<BR/><A HREF="http://%20www.findyouridealpartner.com%20/" REL="nofollow">Dating Advice</A>Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4858723771721649617.post-28692784385426975722009-01-07T09:23:00.000-08:002009-01-07T09:23:00.000-08:00Hi Dr. Jenn,Loved this post! I also focus my clien...Hi Dr. Jenn,<BR/><BR/>Loved this post! I also focus my clients on their language and now they choose to talk about their dramas.<BR/><BR/>Yesterday I was speaking to a woman who was very calm and collected as she told me of her relationship woes.<BR/><BR/>She told me her husband was filled with self loathing. I listened as she finished her story and then asked, "Which of these three descriptions feel best?"<BR/><BR/>He is filled with self loathing.<BR/><BR/>He is poorly equipped to deal with what is going on between you.<BR/><BR/>He is unaware of who he really is.<BR/><BR/>Neutralizing how we look at things really softens our hearts!<BR/><BR/>Love your blog! I will be back!<BR/><BR/>Catherine<BR/>http://www.HowToMakeYourManPerfect.comAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4858723771721649617.post-16495919982007254762008-12-16T19:03:00.000-08:002008-12-16T19:03:00.000-08:00LoveAmbassador-Thanks for stopping by the blog!I t...LoveAmbassador-<BR/>Thanks for stopping by the blog!<BR/><BR/>I totally agree- that old drama can be addicting. People with less than ideal childhoods can crave the highs and lows.<BR/><BR/>I know because I am a recovering Love Addict! And every now and then, all that peace and calm will creep up on me and I will want some good, clean drama.<BR/><BR/>But now I catch myself before I create it!<BR/><BR/>And of course, it helps to have friends that won't let you step too far into the drama!<BR/><BR/>Thanks for adding the link!Dr. Jennhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17033688263726004079noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4858723771721649617.post-32398818790185239992008-12-16T18:55:00.000-08:002008-12-16T18:55:00.000-08:00I like your title turning a bitch-fest into a shif...I like your title turning a bitch-fest into a shift-fest. In my work with EFT or emotional freedom technique. You talk about the issue and allow the bitching and then slowly watch the energy shift. I have had people crying and bitching acutally get upset when the shift happens. <BR/><BR/>If you grew up with feelings of anger and resentment on a daily basis; there can be a craving to recreate those feelings. This pattern can be set up and cause someone to want to "hold on" and recreate these feelings over and over in a "bitch" session. <BR/><BR/>Great blog. Found you on twitter. I am going to add a link to your blog.Anniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04379455872812495583noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4858723771721649617.post-46194874059198102482008-12-08T17:37:00.000-08:002008-12-08T17:37:00.000-08:00Kim Falconer- Yup the drama queen may love the att...Kim Falconer- Yup the drama queen may love the attention, but the Higher self isn't scoring any peace which such shows!<BR/><BR/>I do think it's important to allow yourself the space to have the feeling, to experience it in your body, but not to add to the story of it in your mind.<BR/><BR/>When you let the emotion be, without adding all your thoughts- it shifts much more quickly!<BR/><BR/>Thanks for stopping by!Dr. Jennhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17033688263726004079noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4858723771721649617.post-27670699958541199222008-12-08T17:34:00.000-08:002008-12-08T17:34:00.000-08:00klawless-You make a great point- sometimes when we...klawless-<BR/><BR/>You make a great point- sometimes when we start to talk about it, we shift ourselves!<BR/><BR/>That can be the beauty of talking it out! Sometimes just a listener is all it takes to create an opening, a new perspective for yourself.<BR/><BR/>And if you don't have a listener- just writing about it could have the same effect!<BR/><BR/>I'd think writing about your own dating woes, reframed to see what was positive about the situation- might help your readers connect the dots in their own lives!Dr. Jennhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17033688263726004079noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4858723771721649617.post-80970776637052440362008-12-08T17:31:00.000-08:002008-12-08T17:31:00.000-08:00Mollie-It does help to have a friend who'll get yo...Mollie-<BR/>It does help to have a friend who'll get you off the subject!<BR/><BR/>But I'm curious= if she just changes the topic- how does that make you feel???<BR/><BR/>Might make me, myself, feel bad! Maybe not you- tho! :)<BR/><BR/>That's what I love about the idea of having an agreement with your friend! Then when they interrupt you, it doesn't feel quite so, I don't know, disregarded!<BR/><BR/>That way you know it's not that they don't want to hear you- it's that they want to help you more than hear you out! :)Dr. Jennhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17033688263726004079noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4858723771721649617.post-66415571268545070352008-12-08T17:19:00.000-08:002008-12-08T17:19:00.000-08:00SINgleGIRL- I'm glad you have such wise friends. Y...SINgleGIRL- I'm glad you have such wise friends. You can tell how smart someone is by the company they choose to keep! ;)<BR/><BR/>Michele Priceq- I totally agree!<BR/><BR/>One of the best ways to shift from the yuck, is to ask: What is the gift or lesson for me here? <BR/><BR/>Then practice shifting into gratitude for the gift. <BR/><BR/>Finding a friend who's great at helping you see the gift, at helping you shift into gratitude: priceless!Dr. Jennhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17033688263726004079noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4858723771721649617.post-2692648492957959742008-12-08T12:42:00.000-08:002008-12-08T12:42:00.000-08:00This is a great post, thank you! I love the way yo...This is a great post, thank you! I love the way you suggest we vent the feelings, let them out and then stop! Assess. Find ways to feel a bit better. <BR/><BR/>Focusing on the neg just makes matters worse and though the drama queen in us wants to play lead in the soapy, our core self is looking for fulfillment. Let's all support the core self!<BR/><BR/>Thank you again,<BR/>KimAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4858723771721649617.post-47949373087801149762008-12-08T11:30:00.000-08:002008-12-08T11:30:00.000-08:00I'm usually the one shifting as I talk about it. O...I'm usually the one shifting as I talk about it. One saving grace -- I tend to find humor in even the direst of situations and it becomes an ode to how funny life can be. <BR/><BR/>Many people I know have been encouraging me to write a blog about all the crazy things that happen to me and to be honest, I haven't for precisely this reason. <BR/><BR/>It may be funny, but what you concentrate on is what you bring into your life. So... no blog posts about my personal woes unless it can help turn someone else's woe around.<BR/><BR/>Good post Jenn -- I like it.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4858723771721649617.post-78176171859426457672008-12-08T11:14:00.000-08:002008-12-08T11:14:00.000-08:00One of my newest friends is the very best at this....One of my newest friends is the very best at this. She listens, she supports, she encourages, then she changes the subject lol.<BR/><BR/>So even if I wanted to whine some more, I feel like it would be rude so I have to follow the new flow of conversation and in my favorite phrase 'put on my big girl panties and deal with it' =)Molliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06376702402606751033noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4858723771721649617.post-24742761372156592312008-12-08T11:11:00.000-08:002008-12-08T11:11:00.000-08:00Yes, you are so on target and I would take it furt...Yes, you are so on target and I would take it further and recognize that you have an opportunity to turn this discomfort into something positive.<BR/><BR/>When your focus is only on the yuckness of what is happening there is no room for growth.<BR/><BR/>Yet, it is important to not ignore the yuckness, which is why learning simple techniques to clear you of that energy are so important.<BR/><BR/>It is like trying to paint on a canvass that has a painting already on it, it clouds your picture and its beauty.<BR/><BR/>And for those of you who would say the masters painted over painting, I would agree. They were MASTERS, have you mastered your relationships, then start with a clean canvass.<BR/><BR/>Ta Da!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4858723771721649617.post-29963737112650124202008-12-08T10:21:00.000-08:002008-12-08T10:21:00.000-08:00Good advice.I've never really understood the whole...Good advice.<BR/><BR/>I've never really understood the whole bitchfest thing. I'll admit to having times when I needed to wallow, but the friends I want to cry to have always been the ones who tell me to dry my tears and go to yoga.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4858723771721649617.post-64716904292571357302008-12-08T09:38:00.000-08:002008-12-08T09:38:00.000-08:00Thanks for stopping by Seth!O. Blooms's character ...Thanks for stopping by Seth!<BR/><BR/>O. Blooms's character was smart!<BR/><BR/>We've gotten much too comfortable complaining in this society without taking the next step: doing something useful about it!<BR/><BR/>Of course: "Get over it" has to be done sweetly, and softly, and hopefully with some supportive brainstorming!<BR/><BR/>I hate nothing worse than someone without empathy shouting, "Get over it."<BR/><BR/>But a true friend, does indeed, help us "Get over it!"Dr. Jennhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17033688263726004079noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4858723771721649617.post-49051262722728173132008-12-08T09:28:00.000-08:002008-12-08T09:28:00.000-08:00Awesome idea! In "Elizabethtown" the crazed flight...Awesome idea! In "Elizabethtown" the crazed flight attendant tells O. Bloom's character "take five minutes and wallow in the misery. now, get over it." Great advice and a sign of true friendship. <BR/><BR/>SethAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com