tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-48587237717216496172024-03-13T06:37:20.560-07:00Attract Your SoulmateHow to Find your Perfect Partner and Create a Love that Lasts a Lifetime!Dr. Jennhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17033688263726004079noreply@blogger.comBlogger61125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4858723771721649617.post-73483236532644440732011-03-02T11:31:00.000-08:002011-03-02T11:31:00.541-08:00Can Little White Lies Actually HELP Your Relationship?<a href="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/_B1pswuhfetw/TTngkorz3lI/AAAAAAAAAwk/DhXi7SsBH_E/s1600/j0408938.jpg"><img style="MARGIN: 0px 0px 10px 10px; WIDTH: 199px; FLOAT: right; HEIGHT: 200px; CURSOR: hand" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5564725734594043474" border="0" alt="" src="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/_B1pswuhfetw/TTngkorz3lI/AAAAAAAAAwk/DhXi7SsBH_E/s200/j0408938.jpg" /></a><br /><div><span style="color:#000099;"><strong>How to Tell even the Ugliest Truth!</strong><br /></span><br />So, your partner has just asked a tough question, like, “Is it OK with you if I hang out with the guys tonight (for the third time this week!)?" Or, "Does it bother you that I’ve gained 10 pounds?”<br /><br />Now, you’re squirming in awkward silence. You’ve got precisely 15 seconds to decide: Do I tell the truth or offer a little white lie?<br /><br />If you’re like many people, it’s tempting to offer up what seems like an innocent fib, “Oh sure, have a great time. Tell the guys I said hello.” </div><br /><div></div><br /><div>That’s because many people have a deeply ingrained desire to please, reinforced by societal standards that suggest that people, especially women, should avoid offending others at all costs.<br /><br />But what most folks aren’t aware of are the subtle, but growing costs of cumulative white lies. Although the little fib is usually used to make someone feel better or avoid hurting their feelings, over time, it actually has the opposite effect on your relationship.<br /><br /><strong>In fact, avoiding the truth actually puts stress on your relationship, eventually creating feelings of distance, resentment, and dissatisfaction.</strong><br /><br />So, even LITTLE white lies aren’t doing your relationship any favors!</div><br /><div><br />The next time you’re tempted to take the easy way out and offer a fib, realize that those uncomfortable moments are actually <strong><em>invitations to step closer to your partner</em></strong> by offering your authentic thoughts and feelings.<br /><br />When you learn to always share your truth from a heart-felt place, it will have a freeing effect on you both that actually increases feelings of trust, closeness, and commitment. And best of all, your needs will be met more of the time.<br /><br />But how do you offer your truth in a way that will bring you closer, not push your partner away?<br />It’s easy once you master the <strong>Truth Sandwich</strong>.<br /><br /><strong><span style="color:#000099;">Serving Up a Truth Sandwich: 3 Steps to Sharing Your Truth in Any Situation<br /><br /></span></strong>The essence of a truth sandwich is that you find a way of sharing your real thoughts and feelings that will <em><strong>lift up</strong></em> your partner, not bring him or her down. To do this, it’s easy to sandwich your truth between 2 relationship-bonding statements.<br /><br /><strong>Step 1: Appreciate their Intent<br /><br /></strong>If your man wants to hang with the guys again, let him know you really appreciate him asking your opinion first. Try a statement like, “I really appreciate you checking in with me about your plans- that’s so thoughtful.”<br /><br /><strong>Step 2: Offer a Gentle Version of Your Truth<br /><br /></strong>Once you’ve opened up with appreciation, you’ve softened the way for your truth. Continue with a gentle way to share how you really feel.<br /><br />If you’ve been missing your guy and really wish he’d hang with you instead, try something like, “You know, I was just thinking about how much I’ve been missing some one- on- one time with you.”<br /><br /><strong>Step 3: Wrap Up with a Suggestion<br /><br /></strong>Then finish with a suggestion that will bring you closer together.<br /><br />Experiment with something like, “Maybe we could meet for some sushi then crash on the couch for a movie instead? Or if you’re really jazzed about being with the guys tonight- let’s schedule a date later this week.”<br /><br />This way you are still offering him free choice. But chances are, once you opened up and let your partner know how much you’ve been craving some time together, he’ll actually rather spend time with you! By having the courage to share how you really feel, you create the opportunity for more closeness, which is a win-win for you both.<br /><br /><strong>Readers: We want your take- are white lies, no matter how little, bad for your relationship or are they a simple part of life? If you do tell fibs here and there, what is acceptable and what is not?<br /></strong></div><br /><div><span style="font-size:85%;">Thanks to <a href="http://www.galtime.com/">Galtime.com </a>for posting this original article. Add to the <a href="http://galtime.com/article/love-sex/38436/5890/can-little-white-lies-actually-help-your-relationship">discussion here</a>!</span></div>Dr. Jennhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17033688263726004079noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4858723771721649617.post-75206168583841166782011-02-23T11:26:00.000-08:002011-02-23T11:26:00.507-08:00Help! My Partner is NOT over the Ex!<a href="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_B1pswuhfetw/TTneqG5gu-I/AAAAAAAAAwc/QMX0N_mgGeQ/s1600/j0386292.jpg"><img style="MARGIN: 0px 0px 10px 10px; WIDTH: 200px; FLOAT: right; HEIGHT: 132px; CURSOR: hand" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5564723629580663778" border="0" alt="" src="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_B1pswuhfetw/TTneqG5gu-I/AAAAAAAAAwc/QMX0N_mgGeQ/s200/j0386292.jpg" /></a><br /><div><strong>QUESTION:</strong> My boyfriend seems to love me but he keeps lying about his relationship with his Ex. Obviously, they are more than friends. Is there any hope for us?<br /><br /><strong>ANSWER:</strong> Frankly, the only reason your partner is lying to you is that he KNOWS the truth isn’t acceptable. Otherwise, he wouldn’t need to keep hiding his thoughts, feelings, and actions involving his ex.<br /><br />Sadly, if someone keeps lying, that means that there is something to hide!<br /><br />Unless you’re OK sharing your beau with his ex, chances are it’s time to move on. </div><br /><div></div><br /><div><strong>Clearly, his heart and mind are still involved with another woman.</strong> No matter how well the two of you get along, if he’s still stuck on feelings for his ex- he simply isn’t 100% available to be committed to you, heart and soul.<br /><br />And you deserve to have a whole man to yourself- one who loves you without need to divide his time and attention.<br /><br />If you are so right for each other AND the time comes when he is wholly available (and I mean it’s been 6 months or more without ANY involvement with the EX), you could consider rebuilding a relationship, but until then, you are settling for second best.<br /><br /><strong>Readers, what do you think? If someone still holds a torch for an ex, should you bail right away or give it time and feel things out? Leave us a comment!<br /></strong></div><br /><div><span style="font-size:85%;">Thanks to </span><a href="http://www.galtime.com/"><span style="font-size:85%;">Galtime.com </span></a><span style="font-size:85%;">for posting this original Q&A. See the discussion </span><a href="http://galtime.com/article/love-sex/38436/6116/i-dont-think-my-boyfriends-over-his-ex-help"><span style="font-size:85%;">here.</span></a></div>Dr. Jennhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17033688263726004079noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4858723771721649617.post-23121098891412786782011-02-14T11:50:00.000-08:002011-02-14T12:00:38.297-08:00Singles Surviving Valentine’s Day: Top 5 Ideas to Boost Your Love<a href="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-TkxdqK6Geok/TVmJMIZBb2I/AAAAAAAAAww/tH_NDyVyfTQ/s1600/j0422305.jpg"><img style="MARGIN: 0px 0px 10px 10px; WIDTH: 200px; FLOAT: right; HEIGHT: 200px; CURSOR: hand" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5573636855351570274" border="0" alt="" src="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-TkxdqK6Geok/TVmJMIZBb2I/AAAAAAAAAww/tH_NDyVyfTQ/s200/j0422305.jpg" /></a><br /><div>If you’re single, you probably cringe when someone brings up the dreaded V-day, one of the loneliest holidays for the unhitched.<br /><br />That’s because, surrounded by images of happy couples reveling in love, it’s hard not to focus on the fact that you’re not getting any!<br /><br />But here’s an interesting irony.<br /><br />As long as you’re focused on what makes you unhappy, all of the feelings of sadness, frustration, and helplessness- your <strong>Love Faucet</strong> is closed. </div><br /><div></div><div>Love<em> literally</em> can’t come your way because when you walk around bummed out, your body language doesn’t attract other people, it actually <strong><em>repels</em></strong> them.<br /><br />So, this Valentine’s day there is a simple key to launch you from surviving to thriving: <strong><span style="color:#990000;">Focus on <em>giving</em> love.<br /><br /></span></strong>Rather than going on about your love woes and the love you aren’t getting, step into being a <strong>Giver of Love</strong>- to everyone in your path- from the barista at your coffee shop, to your cranky co-worker hunched at his desk, to the harried waitress serving up dinner.<br /><br />When you focus on giving love, you immediately light up. Those warm and fuzzies you’re passing around? They automatically <em>make you look more attractive</em> to other people- drawing them to you.<br /><br />Even better, once you are <em>being</em> love, your Love Faucet is turned back on and you are now having the E<strong>xperience of Love</strong>.<br /><br /><strong><span style="color:#cc0000;"><span style="color:#990000;">Top 5 Ideas to Boost Your Love</span><br /></span></strong><br />- As you are out and about, gift everyone whose eyes you meet a huge smile while sending a beam of love.<br /><br />- Send an over-due thank you note to someone who touched your heart.<br /><br />- Give a genuine compliment to everyone you interact with- from friends to colleagues to service workers.<br /><br />- Offer someone you know is feeling down or having bad luck a tiny trinket that symbolizes hope, love, or the power of dreams.<br /><br />- On a note card, write the phrases, “You are loved. Pass it on.” Leave the note in a public place, like your co-worker’s desk, a table at the mall food-court, or even hand it to a stranger you pass on the street!<br /><br />Get in the habit of giving love and it’s only a matter of time until you’ll be the recipient of the loving you’ve been waiting for.<br /><br />But why wait? This Valentine’s Day, step into giving the love, which will help you feel the love, which will lead you right into attracting the love you long for!<br /><br /><strong>Readers: What helps you step into experiencing love by giving love? Please share!<br /></strong></div>Dr. Jennhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17033688263726004079noreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4858723771721649617.post-84300743593535257472011-01-24T11:10:00.000-08:002011-01-21T11:26:32.705-08:00Top 4 Signs You are Dating a Commitment-Phobe and How to Deal!<a href="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/_B1pswuhfetw/TTnbl_nWqGI/AAAAAAAAAwU/Ds4IE5WNEt4/s1600/j0386366.jpg"><img style="MARGIN: 0px 0px 10px 10px; WIDTH: 200px; FLOAT: right; HEIGHT: 132px; CURSOR: hand" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5564720260371097698" border="0" alt="" src="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/_B1pswuhfetw/TTnbl_nWqGI/AAAAAAAAAwU/Ds4IE5WNEt4/s200/j0386366.jpg" /></a>Have you spent too long trying to make Mr./Ms. Wrong fall in love with you? You know the type- the one you’re always pursuing because they forever seem to be just out of reach.<br /><br />Sadly, many singles squander away time pursuing a relationship that has no future, when they could be busy finding real love.<br /><br />But the drama of being on an <strong>emotional roller coaster</strong> with a Commitment-Phobe can be a tad addicting, luring you in with juicy highs, and the hope that maybe underneath it all they could be The One.<br /><br />So, how can you tell when you’re wasting your time? When the person you’re dating has no intention of committing to you?<br /><br />The bottom line is that when two people really like each other, they automatically enact the <strong>Principle of Equal Investment.</strong> In other words, both partners invest equal amounts of time, energy, and emotion.<br /><br />Check out these tell-tale signs that their investment isn’t up to par, as well as what to do about it.<br /><br /><span style="color:#000099;"><strong>1. You Always Reach Out First<br /></strong><br /></span>If you’re always beating your date to an email, text, or call- then you’re extending more effort. If you waited to reach out, would it be a few days, a week, 2 weeks before you heard from them? You better find out!<br /><br /><strong>Solution: Give'em Space</strong><br /><br />The more you pursue a commitment-phobe, the more they withdraw. So, wait for them to make contact first. When they does reach out, don’t jump to connect- take your time returning the message.<br /><br /><strong><span style="color:#000099;">2. They Only Make Last Minute Plans<br /><br /></span></strong>A commitment-phobe likes to keep their options open, so they typically only initiate plans with you at the last minute. Sure, they might agree to something you’ve planned sooner- but they won’t make that move personally.<br /><br /><strong>Solution: Make Your Own Plans<br /><br /></strong>When you have a full life of fun, you’ll be less needy and more attractive. So make your own plans with friends and never change them just to be with them. If they really want to spend time with you, they'll learn to schedule time sooner. Let them pursue you.<br /><br /><strong><span style="color:#000099;">3. You’re an Outsider to their World<br /><br /></span></strong>When a person isn’t ready to commit, they'll keep you separate from their world of work, friends, and family. If you’ve been dating more than 6 weeks and haven’t met anyone important to them yet, they are clearly unsure if you belong in their life.<br /><br /><strong>Solution: Invite Yourself In<br /></strong><br />When your partner does call, say you’d love to meet their friends. Offer to set up a friendly group date- with some of your friends and theirs. When a person really wants to be with you, they <em>want </em>to show you off! If they balk- it’s a sign they are not right for you.<br /><br /><strong><span style="color:#000099;">4. You’re Skating on the Superficial Surface<br /><br /></span></strong>Does your partner still feel like a stranger? That’s because they aren't ready to invite you into their inner life. If you have to pry the deeper thoughts and feelings out, then they not choosing to connect on an authentic level.<br /><br /><strong>Solution: Share Your Vision<br /></strong><br />When two people click, it’s natural for them to talk about their vision for the future- their hopes, fears, and dreams for a better life. So bring up your own wishes, you don’t have to talk about the future of the relationship. If your partner doesn’t get engaged with this conversation, it’s a clear sign they not invested in you yet.<br /><br />If after stepping back and trying these tips for up to a month, your partner still isn’t filling that space by connecting more deeply and regularly with you, then it’s time to move on to a person who values you as much as you value them!<br /><br /><strong>Readers: What signs has your commitment-phobe given you and what did you do about it? Please share!</strong><br /><strong></strong><br /><span style="font-size:85%;">Thanks to </span><a href="http://www.galtime,com/"><span style="font-size:85%;">Galtime.com </span></a><span style="font-size:85%;">for publishling this <a href="http://galtime.com/article/love-sex/38436/6364/top-4-signs-you%E2%80%99re-dating-commitment-phobe">original article</a>.</span>Dr. Jennhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17033688263726004079noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4858723771721649617.post-6824377164056572392011-01-21T10:20:00.000-08:002011-01-21T10:30:35.780-08:00Have You Made YOUR Soulmate Resolution?<a href="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/_B1pswuhfetw/TTnQDVaJ1KI/AAAAAAAAAwM/MfRne9JGBV4/s1600/j0402278.jpg"><img style="MARGIN: 0px 0px 10px 10px; WIDTH: 200px; FLOAT: right; HEIGHT: 160px; CURSOR: hand" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5564707570297984162" border="0" alt="" src="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/_B1pswuhfetw/TTnQDVaJ1KI/AAAAAAAAAwM/MfRne9JGBV4/s200/j0402278.jpg" /></a>If you’re still single, chances are you’re ready to find the right partner and begin enjoying the benefits of happy coupledom.<br /><br />To boost your odds of finding the right match, here are some commitments you can make to yourself to ensure you really <em>will</em> attract the perfect partner.<br /><br /><br /><span style="color:#000099;"><strong>Resolution 1: Re-Boot the Inner You<br /></strong><br /></span>Every single has ideas that are holding you back: thoughts of lack, limitation, or impossibility that keep you from attracting the kind of high quality partner you deserve. Whether you think you are too old, too big, too short, or too broke to find real love, it’s only a myth because there is someone for everyone.<br /><br /><br /><strong>Don’t let inaccurate perceptions stop you from stepping out and staying in the game of love.</strong> Clean up your self-talk until the messages you give yourself about love are energizing and uplifting. <em>That inner sparkle will attract outer attention!<br /></em><br /><br /><span style="color:#000099;"><strong>Resolution 2: Restyle the Outer You<br /></strong><br /></span><br />Once you clean up the inner you, the outer you could use some polish. Consider which aspect of your physical appearance needs updating- hair, clothes, fitness?- to go along with your new attitude. Discover what would make you feel like a great catch, and then let your new confidence highlight your fresh features.<br /><br /><br /><strong>When you look great, you feel great and <em>that </em>will be attractive to the perfect kind of partner!<br /><br /><br /><span style="color:#000099;">Resolution 3: Resist Inaction<br /></span></strong><br /><br />Most singles get frustrated after a couple of let-downs, then they give up their search for real love.<br /><br />But to be successful at attracting the ideal partner this year, you’ve got to stay in action, rotating your strategies until someone clicks.<br /><br />Commit to a <strong>novel act or activity at least twice a month</strong>, whether it’s trying a new online dating site, going to a different singles event, or even getting your coffee or lunch at an unusual location. By mixing it up, you’ll increase your exposure to new people- any of whom may be the perfect match!<br /><br /><br /><span style="color:#000099;"><strong>Resolution 4: Stay on Track<br /></strong></span><br />Once you’re dating, it can be hard to remember that your ultimate outcome is to find the best partner, not just any partner. It’s easy to just keep sliding forward in a barely right relationship, wasting precious time you could be using to find a great match.<br /><br /><strong>So give any budding bond 3 months</strong> and if it’s missing momentum, bow out and stay on the lookout for someone who really is your ideal partner!<br /><br /><br />With these 4 commitments, you’ll be on your way to attracting the kind of love that really <em>can </em>last a lifetime!<br /><br /><strong>Readers: What commitment are you ready to make to ensure you will find love this year? Please share!</strong>Dr. Jennhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17033688263726004079noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4858723771721649617.post-75823913063197532432010-12-30T14:33:00.000-08:002010-12-30T16:34:40.047-08:004 Steps to Surviving a Singles New Year’s Eve (and Thriving!)<a href="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/_B1pswuhfetw/TR0kQ7hKVII/AAAAAAAAAvk/9bTn1JbVhLk/s1600/road%2Bwoman.jpg"><img style="MARGIN: 0px 0px 10px 10px; WIDTH: 200px; FLOAT: right; HEIGHT: 150px; CURSOR: hand" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5556637388518347906" border="0" alt="" src="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/_B1pswuhfetw/TR0kQ7hKVII/AAAAAAAAAvk/9bTn1JbVhLk/s200/road%2Bwoman.jpg" /></a><br /><div>When you’re craving the loving lips of your perfect partner to kiss at midnight, it’s kind of a downer to be all alone.<br /><br />But you can make 2011 the year you finally meet your ideal mate. And New Year’s Eve is the perfect time to step into a slate-clearing ritual which will be the first step to attracting real love next year.<br /><br />So instead of heading out to a party, where the sight of all those happy couples might send you into a spiral of depression, here’s an uplifting way to spend the first night of the New Year.<br /><br /><span style="FONT-WEIGHT: bold">New Year Ritual for Singles</span><br /><br /><span style="FONT-WEIGHT: bold">Step 1: Set the Space for Romance</span><br /><br />Create a comforting space where you can reflect upon last year and your desires for next year- maybe with candles, music, warm blankets, and your favorite snacks. The mood you are aiming for is gratitude: grateful appreciation for what has been and grateful expectation for what will be.<br /><br /><span style="FONT-WEIGHT: bold">Step 2: Express Gratitude for the Gifts</span><br style="FONT-WEIGHT: bold"><br />Make a gratitude list from all of your dating experience last year. First focus on all of the experiences you don’t actually feel grateful for.<br /><br />As you list them, tune into what the lesson was in each uncomfortable event. What was the gift? How was it asking you to step into your Best Self? Can you be appreciative of that opportunity? Wrap your list up with all of the dating experiences you actually do feel gratitude for.<br /><br />Soak in that attitude of gratitude as you read your list out loud, thanking each person for the gem of opportunity they offered to you even if you didn’t recognize the gift until right this moment.<br /><br /><span style="FONT-WEIGHT: bold">Step 3: Write Your Love Story</span><br /><br />From this warm-hearted space, let’s step into your vision of love in the New Year. It’s time to write your very own love story. Yup- I want you to imagine what it will look and feel like once you are happily in love with your ideal partner.<br /><br />Picture a scene you are looking forward to experiencing and write it out with all the details of every sense- what will you see, feel, hear, touch, taste, smell? Bring it to life in all it’s glory. Now you have a visualization you can use every day- once you step into this feeling, you become a mate magnet.<br /><br style="FONT-WEIGHT: bold"><span style="FONT-WEIGHT: bold">Step 4: Invite Your Mate to Join You</span><br /><br />Standing in your power as a mate magnet, the last step to our ritual is to compose a letter to your beloved. After experiencing this future scene, what are all of the things you wish to say to the love of your life?<br /><br />Consider this paper at once a thank you note, a love letter, and a personal invitation for this person to appear in your life. Once it’s done, place it in an envelope, and put it in a special drawer that you have cleared to be your partners once they show up.<br /><br />Then go to sleep with the grateful expectation that real love will be yours in the new year, knowing that you just set the stage perfectly for your true love to walk into your life and sweep you off your feet.<br /><br style="FONT-WEIGHT: bold"><span style="FONT-WEIGHT: bold">Singles: How will you welcome love into the New Year? Share!</span><br style="FONT-WEIGHT: bold"></div>Dr. Jennhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17033688263726004079noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4858723771721649617.post-2577820136999524052010-12-28T18:25:00.000-08:002010-12-29T11:57:21.828-08:00Top 5 Must-Do New Years Resolutions for Singles<a href="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/_B1pswuhfetw/TRqczZm0O1I/AAAAAAAAAvc/ZCuRvplBo4s/s1600/j0255379.jpg"><img style="MARGIN: 0px 0px 10px 10px; WIDTH: 200px; FLOAT: right; HEIGHT: 132px; CURSOR: hand" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5555925497175882578" border="0" alt="" src="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/_B1pswuhfetw/TRqczZm0O1I/AAAAAAAAAvc/ZCuRvplBo4s/s200/j0255379.jpg" /></a><br /><div>If you are ringing in the New Year all alone, chances are you’re ready to finally find love in 2011.<br /><br />Of course, January is the perfect time to wipe your slate clean of last year’s love mistakes to ensure that next year really is filled with lasting love.<br /><br />If you are serious about fast forwarding to the relationship of your dreams, it’s time to commit to the following six resolutions.<br /><br /><strong>1. Bust Old Patterns<br /></strong><br />If your luck in love is going to be different next year, the first thing you need to do is get honest with yourself about the patterns that are holding you back.<br /><br />Think back through the last few years- which experiences have you had over and over? Do you pursue while he withdraws? Are you forever rescuing her?<br /><br />Resolve to catch yourself making the same mistakes, then walk away, so you can create new, healthy habits pronto.<br /><br /><strong>2. Date Outside Your Type<br /><br /></strong>Chances are if “your type” hasn’t panned out for you by now, it’s time to discover a new type. Quirky artist not working out so well? Mr. Wall Street never emotionally available?<br /><br />Resolve to date outside your normal comfort zone. Consider opening up your expectations in regard to age, height, income, race, job, etc.<br /><br />Soulmates come in unexpected packages- broaden your horizon and you’re more apt to stumble upon an unexpected perfect match.<br /><br /><strong>3. Ditch the Duds Fast<br /></strong><br />The best way to fast forward to The One? Stop wasting your time with people who are clearly only Mr./Ms. Right Now.<br /><br />As long as you give away your valuable time, attention, and emotion to the wrong partner, you’ll never find the right relationship. Limit yourself to three months of dating, if the bond doesn’t obviously have more potential by then, move on.<br /><br /><strong>4. Blast through Dating Ruts<br /></strong><br />Yup- doing what you’ve always done, will get you what you’ve always gotten. If you haven’t found the right partner during your usual routine, it’s time to get creative in your daily & dating activities.<br /></div><br /><div>Join new groups, take novel classes, or frequent different coffee shops, bookstores, hiking trails, & grocery stores. Your ideal mate is out there- if you are always somewhere new, doing something different, you maximize the chances of serendipity working it’s magic.<br /><br /><strong>5. Share Your Best Self<br /></strong><br />Maybe it’s not just what you are doing that needs a makeover, but who you are and how you show up! Get real with yourself by asking: What about you isn’t as attractive as it could be?<br /><br />Ask your closest friend for honest feedback. Do you tend to be overly anxious or pessimistic? Are quick to pass judgment or so shy you fade into the background? Maybe it’s time to hit the gym, get some cute clothes, or try a new hairstyle?<br /><br />When you step into your best self, you’ll more naturally attract a better partner- the one you truly deserve.<br /><br />By making these 5 commitments, you’ll be well on your way to making 2011 the year you finally find true love!</div><br /><div></div><br /><div><strong>Readers: What's your New Years Resolution to find love? Please share!<br /></strong></div>Dr. Jennhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17033688263726004079noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4858723771721649617.post-15090269073582099342010-12-20T11:51:00.000-08:002010-12-20T12:04:29.871-08:003 Steps to Finding Love in 2011<a href="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_B1pswuhfetw/TQ-0vsiQh2I/AAAAAAAAAvQ/Eq1W1SVtoyA/s1600/j0422586.jpg"><img style="MARGIN: 0px 0px 10px 10px; WIDTH: 200px; FLOAT: right; HEIGHT: 134px; CURSOR: hand" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5552855597072811874" border="0" alt="" src="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_B1pswuhfetw/TQ-0vsiQh2I/AAAAAAAAAvQ/Eq1W1SVtoyA/s200/j0422586.jpg" /></a><br /><br />Being single around the holidays can, well, suck. But it doesn’t have to for long, because you can focus on getting jazzed up about finally finding The One in 2011.<br /><br />Woo-hoo!<br /><br />To boost your chances of attracting real love next year, there are really <em>only 3 simple steps</em> you need to take. If you start focusing on them now, by the time you ring in the New Year, you can be fast-forwarding yourself towards the love you deserve.<br /><br />But, if you get all bah-hum-bug on me and stay stuck in a rut of old patterns. Well, I hate to say it, but 2011 will probably look a lot like 2010 did- without the love of your life gracing your days.<br /><br />So, let’s leap into the New Year ready to manifest real, lasting love into your life.<br /><br /><strong><span style="color:#990000;">Get started now with these 3 Steps for Finding Love in 2011<br /></span></strong><br /><strong>1. Extend Gratitude for your Love Lessons<br /><br /></strong>Before you’ll be ready to really attract a new kind of love that is deeply fulfilling, you’ll have to take a serious look at what you created last year in the love department.<br /><br />Sit down with a notebook and go through all of your love experiences in 2010 and identify the MAJOR LESSONS each experience invited you to learn.<br /><br />Now, dig deep into your heart and express some gratitude to each of these people who offered these lessons- because if you had not learned these lessons you wouldn’t be ready to meet The One.<br /><br />Really.<br /><br />So find the part of your heart that can really and truly be thankful for each and every one of these not so perfect partners.<br /><br /><strong><br />2. Clarify the Pattern<br /></strong><br />With your lessons front and center, you should be able to recognize the patterns you tend to play out in your love life.<br /><br />Take some thoughtful time to get super clear about:<br /><br />- The kind of partner you tend to attract (the good and not so good qualities)<br /><br />- The kinds of unhappy interactions you tend to have with partners<br /><br />- The ways in which your needs tend to remain unfulfilled<br /><br />- The behaviors you engage in which keep this cycle going on<br /><br /><br /><strong>3. Set Your Action Plan</strong><br /><br />Awesome- now that you know what ISN’T working, commit to doing something new that will work!<br /><br />Based on your insights about the old patterns, create some new dating rules for yourself so you can create a new pattern. And get a buddy to hold you accountable so that real love can be yours this year.<br /><br />For example,<br /><br />- If fear held you back and you hardly met anyone last year, grab a single friend and commit to going to 2 singles events a month.<br /><br /><br />- If you keep falling for emotionally unavailable partners, commit to walking out the door as soon as you see the old warning signs so you can stay available for a great partner.<br /><br /><br />- If you tend to find fault with everyone you date, commit to giving everyone 3 chances- you never know what a little time might do for your bond.<br /><br /><br />You get the idea- bust out of your dating ruts, and soon lasting love can be your reward. Make 2011 the year you finally find The One- you deserve it.<br /><br />And we’ll be right here with you, supporting you toward creating Authentic Attraction that can result in Love that Lasts a Lifetime!<br /><br /><span style="font-family:times new roman;"><strong>Give yourself the gift of love! Not sure how to clear the old patterns? Our 3 part- e-course, </strong></span><a href="http://http//www.mysoulmatesolution.com/MagnetQuickCourse.htm"><span style="font-family:times new roman;"><strong>Super Charge Your Soulmate Magnet</strong></span></a><strong><span style="font-family:times new roman;"> will help you shift out of the old so you can begin attracting real love <em>right away</em>!<br /><br /></span><span style="font-family:times new roman;">Ready to take action now? I found my husband online and you can too- I can help: <a href="http://meetyourmateonline.com/">Meet Your Mate Online </a></span></strong>Dr. Jennhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17033688263726004079noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4858723771721649617.post-3318501224144589032010-07-28T13:36:00.000-07:002010-07-28T13:45:49.061-07:00Top 3 Dating Lessons from the Bachelorette<a href="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/_B1pswuhfetw/TFCW2DazS9I/AAAAAAAAArI/5fJCLYD9fTM/s1600/ali.jpg"><img style="MARGIN: 0px 0px 10px 10px; WIDTH: 200px; FLOAT: right; HEIGHT: 134px; CURSOR: hand" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5499061000394197970" border="0" alt="" src="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/_B1pswuhfetw/TFCW2DazS9I/AAAAAAAAArI/5fJCLYD9fTM/s200/ali.jpg" /></a><br /><div>Can you find real love on a reality TV show? Doubtful. Since the conditions aren't real!<br /><br />But you can learn REAL love lessons from all that drama. Let's take a peek at this season's Bachelorette, Ali, to see what insights her journey offer for those looking for real life lasting love.<br /><br /><strong>Lesson 1: Juggling is Oh-So-Good<br /></strong><br />The Bachelorette is set up so Ali gets to date a ton of guys at a time. While you may never have <em>25 guys</em> vying for your attention at one time (and it isn't smart to actually fall in love with more than one at a time!), there is some wisdom to getting to know a few prospects at a time.<br /><br />That's what I call <strong>Juggling</strong>, and it's perfect because it keeps you moving toward finding real love with fewer time outs when guys up and disappear. And it's less heartbreaking when one or more disqualify themselves from the running- because you still have hope another option will pan out.<br /><br />Plus, when you <em>spread your attention out</em> over a few qualified prospects, you take the time to go slower- getting to know the real person behind the persona. This means you won't make the mistake of falling head over heels for a mere image of the perfect partner before you know what's on the inside. By going slowly, you can build a solid love, one date at a time.<br /><br /><br /><strong>Lesson 2: Follow Your Gut<br /></strong><br />One of Ali's most genuine connections from the start was with Frank. <em>Yet, something wasn't quite right.</em> She even said it herself a few dates in, something like: "What scares me is you have the potential to break my heart."<br /><br />BINGO! Fast forward several episodes to where Ali has chosen Frank to stay in the top 3 and he informs her he's still in love with his ex-girlfriend! Ouch! Now her heart is broken and she sent home good guys who could have been The One.<br /><br />The moral? <strong>Always listen to your instincts.</strong> If something feels off, 90% of the time, it is and you shouldn't slide forward in your connection until you get it figured out. Bring your concerns up and don't ignore them until it feels right. </div><br /><div></div><br /><div><strong>A good line to try: "Is there something you aren't telling me?"</strong> If the answer doesn't feel right, don't trust it, move on.<br /><br /><br /><strong>Lesson 3: Listen to Your Friends<br /></strong><br />Oh boy, the hunky Wrestler. An upstanding man in pursuit of real love or a fake, selfish publicity seeker? That was the question from the very first episode- when all the men voted Justin off- they just didn't trust him.<br /><br />But his charming, smooth ways won over Ali in spite of everyone else's opinion. Only to find out mid-way through that he had a girlfriend waiting for him at home- he was a dishonorable liar. And again, Ali sent home quality guys to keep this phony.<br /><br />The lesson? When in doubt, always listen to the opinion of close friends and family who often have clearer judgment that isn't clouded by hopes of love and hormones. If no one likes your new date- there is a reason- get to the bottom of it before love leaves you with a broken heart.<br /><br />While true love isn't easy to find on TV, you have high hopes of creating a lasting love when you date smart!<br /><br /><strong>Readers:</strong> Which hunky prospect would you have choosen for Ali? For yourself? Let us know!</div><br /><div></div><br /><div>Wondering how much longer it's gonna be until you find The One? Take Dr. Jenn's Attractor Factor quiz and discover what's keeping you from finding real, lasting love. Haven't you waited long enough? Become a Massive Love Magnet today! Take the quiz now: http://www.mysoulmatesolution.com </div>Dr. Jennhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17033688263726004079noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4858723771721649617.post-422617878270900662010-07-20T14:34:00.000-07:002010-07-28T14:39:05.493-07:00Online Dating: The Most Expensive Mistake Sites Want You to KEEP Making!Online dating is an excellent way to finally find the perfect partner you’ve been waiting for. But only if you master the art of online dating with authenticity and charm.<br /><br />Which isn’t as simple as it seems.<br /><br />In part, because there is a dirty little secret the online dating sites don’t want you to know.<br /><br /><strong>That’s because as long as you keep making this mistake, you’ll never find The One.</strong><br /><br />Which works out nicely for the sites since you’ll keep handing over your hard earned money in the hopes of eventually attracting real love.<br /><br />What’s this secret?<br /><br /><strong>That the Wink or Smile feature doesn’t work!<br /></strong><br />Some time ago, most of the popular Internet dating sites added a fancy new feature that seemed, at first glance, to be a fantastic idea: The Wink or Smile.<br /><br />With this feature, it took only one click to let new cuties know that you were interested in them- without having to write a word.<br /><br />It seemed to make perfect sense.<br /><br /><em>The apparent benefit?</em> It immediately streamlined the time it took you to reach out and express your interest to more potential dates than ever.<br /><br />A good thing?<br /><br />Absolutely not!<br /><br />Because there was a <strong><em>Hidden Downfall</em></strong>:<br />Winks or Smiles don’t work because they are actually an INSULT!<br /><br />Really? An Insult?<br /><br />Oh yes, because here is what you are REALLY communicating when you send a wink or smile:<br /><br /><strong>I’m not interested in you enough to spend a moment to write you a short, thoughtful email. I’m only willing to expend the effort it takes to press this button once.<br /></strong><br />See what I mean?<br /><br />Hardly a compliment that makes the recipient want to expend ANY energy looking at your profile to see if you are worth writing back to.<br /><br />Nope! That’s why the vast majority of winks or smiles get ignored.<br /><br />So not only are they a total waste of your time, but you are actually missing out on great dates and maybe even bypassing The ONE!!!<br /><br />That’s because some of those people you winked at <strong><em>would surely have responded to you</em></strong> if only you had taken the time to write them a compelling greeting instead!<br /><br />So, this set up certainly works for the online dating sites- right? Because they look like good guys- giving you a quick and easy way to connect.<br /><br />But it’s actually a DIS-connect working against you finding love- in essence, ensuring that you stay a paying member on their site for a good long time.<br /><br />That’s why savvy, successful online daters NEVER use the wink or smile.<br /><br />Instead they write an <strong>engaging, meaningful greeting email</strong> and score <em>dozens more dates</em> than you.<br /><br />All leading them to finding the love they’ve been waiting for!<br /><br /><strong>Readers:</strong> Does the wink or smile feature insult you? Let us know!<br /><br /><span style="font-family:trebuchet ms;">Do you have the skills it takes to find love online? </span><br /><span style="font-family:trebuchet ms;">Find out now- take the Online Attraction Quiz: </span><br /><a href="http://www.meetyourmateonline.com/"><span style="font-family:trebuchet ms;">MeetYourMateOnline.com</span></a>Dr. Jennhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17033688263726004079noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4858723771721649617.post-43045108100748108802010-05-25T18:15:00.001-07:002010-07-20T14:45:11.050-07:00The 3 Best First-Date Compliments to Ensure a Second Date!<a href="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/_B1pswuhfetw/TEYYoy3CJLI/AAAAAAAAArA/ZzZuINKAhBs/s1600/j0411684.jpg"><img style="MARGIN: 0px 0px 10px 10px; WIDTH: 134px; FLOAT: right; HEIGHT: 200px; CURSOR: hand" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5496107484378703026" border="0" alt="" src="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/_B1pswuhfetw/TEYYoy3CJLI/AAAAAAAAArA/ZzZuINKAhBs/s200/j0411684.jpg" /></a><br /><p class="MsoNormal">Do you find yourself going on plenty of first dates, but never getting to the second date? Or maybe it’s a challenge to even get to the first date?</p><p class="MsoNormal">If so, you might need to polish the skills it takes to create an authentic attraction, one that creates enough curiosity that you are naturally lead to the next date.</p><p class="MsoNormal">Thankfully, the <u>Art of Authentic Attraction</u> is simple enough! It’s all about coming from your heart so you can connect to the heart of your date.</p><p class="MsoNormal">Below you’ll discover the <strong>3 Best Compliments</strong> to give your date to build instant connection, heart to heart. Once a connection is created, the desire to learn more about each other is sparked, giving you the opportunity to meet again.</p><p class="MsoNormal">Of course, you can only offer these words of praise if they are genuine- otherwise, you aren’t being authentic, you’re playing a game! So keep in mind, it’s ok to personalize your compliments to the strengths you see in your date.</p><br /><p class="MsoNormal"><b>Compliment 1: “I love the sparkle in your eyes.”</b></p><p class="MsoNormal">The eyes are indeed the window to the soul, so take the time to make deep meaningful eye contact with your date, seeing past the outer imperfections to the inner beauty.</p><p class="MsoNormal">As you do, let them know you appreciate the sparkle you see there. With this comment, you are reflecting the energy of WHO they are. And everyone loves to be SEEN for who they really are. </p><p class="MsoNormal">Since people so frequently don’t recognize each other for the energy they are bringing to the moment, when you do, you’ll immediately create a spark of curiosity in your date- based on a real, mini-heart bond. </p><p class="MsoNormal">A bond you can build on during the rest of your date.</p><br /><p class="MsoNormal"><b>Compliment 2: “Wow, I really admire your passion about that!”</b></p><p class="MsoNormal">Ask your date what they are passionate about and keep asking them questions about it until they literally come alive right in front of you.</p><p class="MsoNormal">When talking about their passion people actually become more attractive AND your sincere interest in their passion makes you immediately more attractive as well. So it’s a double bonus leading to chemistry.</p><p class="MsoNormal">Plus when you honor someone’s innate interests, you create commonality, boosting their desire to see you again.</p><p class="MsoNormal"><b><br />Compliment 3: “I love the way I feel around you! You make me feel ________!”</b></p><p class="MsoNormal">We all crave recognition for being the great people we are. But in our rushed world, we don’t often get to directly see the positive impact we have on each other. </p><p class="MsoNormal">So, when you honestly share with someone how they have affected you, you immediately open their heart, because once again, they feel SEEN, creating a robust connection.</p><p class="MsoNormal">Practice playing with these 3 compliments to see how much instant connection and chemistry can create the opportunity for so many more happy dates leading to real lasting love!</p><br /><p style="FONT-WEIGHT: bold" class="MsoNormal"><span style="FONT-WEIGHT: bold">Readers: What compliment helped you score a second date? Or what compliment was given to you that opened your heart? Please share!</span><br /></p>Dr. Jennhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17033688263726004079noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4858723771721649617.post-29695582103930683162010-05-24T12:55:00.000-07:002010-05-24T14:04:58.234-07:00Love Lessons from LOST: Are you a Jack or Sawyer Girl?<a href="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/_B1pswuhfetw/S_riqxi7AYI/AAAAAAAAAqY/0W2OFbURgYY/s1600/jack3.jpg"></a><br /><div><br /><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5474936443691753042" style="FLOAT: right; MARGIN: 0px 0px 10px 10px; WIDTH: 107px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 160px" alt="" src="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/_B1pswuhfetw/S_rhsCYWXlI/AAAAAAAAAqI/f8ZP-vDn874/s200/jack2.jpg" border="0" />What will I do without my weekly fix of the hot guys on the steamy island of LOST?<br /><br />I'll be honest- Jack is more my style- a gorgeous man trying to save th<a href="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/_B1pswuhfetw/S_rigEJFcCI/AAAAAAAAAqQ/5ZJlQ9pTvKM/s1600/jack4.jpg"></a>e tribe, who's also vulnerable enough to cry- THAT steals my heart.<br /><div><div></div><em><div><br />And </em>drives my husband crazy, "Is that MAN crying <em>AGAIN</em>!" Oh yes, baby, he IS! ;)<br /><br />But, give me a night alone with Sawyer, and well, I'll appreciate that opportunity as well. <a href="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_B1pswuhfetw/S_rf6D7PHzI/AAAAAAAAAqA/mE93jJBcC6k/s1600/sawyer_lost.jpg"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5474934485601427250" style="FLOAT: right; MARGIN: 0px 0px 10px 10px; WIDTH: 200px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 150px" alt="" src="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_B1pswuhfetw/S_rf6D7PHzI/AAAAAAAAAqA/mE93jJBcC6k/s200/sawyer_lost.jpg" border="0" /></a><br /><br />But, if you're looking for a lifetime of love- Jack is your best bet.<br /><br />Actually- the point is, both of these cuties have baggage, and so most likely do you.<br /><br /><strong>The real question is: Which type of baggage can <em>you </em>most easily live with???</strong><br /><br />If you pick Sawyer, with his bad-boy good looks, you also get his prickly, sometimes deceptive, "I may be outta here in a moment" attitude.<br /><br />He's sexy, and if he loves you, you can probably count on him in a pinch, but is it really worth all of the drama? That <em>defensive bristle</em> isn't so easy to get along with for the long haul. And his need for space, his desire to hide his true emotions, and his requirement of always having an escape route- well, those all spell trouble in paradise for you.<br /><br />Besides, he always looks, so.... pinched! Where's the smile, babe?<br /><br /><strong>If you find yourself routinely attracted to the Sawyer type, it's likely you end up with more than your fair share of broken hearts and it might just be time to try a little more Jack-like romance.<br /></strong><br />Jack's baggage? Well, trying to gain the approval of a father in whose eyes he was never enough, Jack has an <em>insatiable urge</em> to be the good guy, trying to save the world, and trying to do right by you.<br /><br />He's loyal almost to a fault, because <em>integrity is all he has</em> to prop up his sense of doubt about his worth. This is a man who will do anything to win your love and save your relationship. </div><div> </div><div><strong>That’s the kind of baggage that’s easy to live with because it supports you in building a bond that can withstand a lifetime of LOST like challenges.<br /></strong><br />If you typically fall for men like Jack, it's safe to say that one of these days you'll hit the <strong>JACKpot</strong> and find a keeper. </div><div></div><div><br />While you might be tempted occasionally to stray into the sexy arms of his rival Sawyer- Jack's the man who will really have your back.<br /><br />If I'm ever stranded on a tropical island- Jack's gonna be my main man!<br /><br />How about you?<br /></div><div><strong>Start by assessing your own baggage and when you meet a potential partner, be sure to see if their baggage <em>compliments, or aggravates</em> your own.<br /></strong><br />If it’s smooth sailing, you can be assured of sunny seas ahead. But if you push each other’s buttons, stormy seas mean it may make sense to bail out now and save yourself!</div><div><br /><strong>Readers: Who would YOU choose? Please share!</strong></div><div><strong></strong></div><div></div><div>Read what the writers at Tango see as the <a href="http://http://www.yourtango.com/201056235/5-love-lessons-lost">5 LOST Love Lessons</a>. I'm not sure I agree with them about Sawyer tho!</div><div><strong></strong></div></div></div>Dr. Jennhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17033688263726004079noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4858723771721649617.post-54131686620021192802010-05-17T15:58:00.000-07:002010-05-17T16:06:40.601-07:00Are One of These 3 Biggest Blocks to Love Detouring Your Love Life?<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/_B1pswuhfetw/S_HK9z5kC9I/AAAAAAAAAp4/QLyKp6YfE9U/s1600/j0422733.jpg"><img style="margin: 0pt 0pt 10px 10px; float: right; cursor: pointer; width: 200px; height: 200px;" src="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/_B1pswuhfetw/S_HK9z5kC9I/AAAAAAAAAp4/QLyKp6YfE9U/s200/j0422733.jpg" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5472378185484340178" border="0" /></a>
<br /><meta equiv="Content-Type" content="text/html; charset=utf-8"><meta name="ProgId" content="Word.Document"><meta name="Generator" content="Microsoft Word 11"><meta name="Originator" content="Microsoft Word 11"><link rel="File-List" href="file:///C:%5CDOCUME%7E1%5CCOMPAQ%7E1%5CLOCALS%7E1%5CTemp%5Cmsohtml1%5C01%5Cclip_filelist.xml"><!--[if gte mso 9]><xml> <w:worddocument> <w:view>Normal</w:View> <w:zoom>0</w:Zoom> <w:punctuationkerning/> <w:validateagainstschemas/> <w:saveifxmlinvalid>false</w:SaveIfXMLInvalid> <w:ignoremixedcontent>false</w:IgnoreMixedContent> <w:alwaysshowplaceholdertext>false</w:AlwaysShowPlaceholderText> <w:compatibility> <w:breakwrappedtables/> <w:snaptogridincell/> <w:wraptextwithpunct/> <w:useasianbreakrules/> <w:dontgrowautofit/> </w:Compatibility> <w:browserlevel>MicrosoftInternetExplorer4</w:BrowserLevel> </w:WordDocument> </xml><![endif]--><!--[if gte mso 9]><xml> <w:latentstyles deflockedstate="false" latentstylecount="156"> </w:LatentStyles> </xml><![endif]--><style> <!-- /* Style Definitions */ p.MsoNormal, li.MsoNormal, div.MsoNormal {mso-style-parent:""; margin:0in; margin-bottom:.0001pt; mso-pagination:widow-orphan; font-size:12.0pt; font-family:"Times New Roman"; mso-fareast-font-family:"Times New Roman";} @page Section1 {size:8.5in 11.0in; margin:.7in 1.1in .7in 1.0in; mso-header-margin:.5in; mso-footer-margin:.5in; mso-paper-source:0;} div.Section1 {page:Section1;} --> </style><!--[if gte mso 10]> <style> /* Style Definitions */ table.MsoNormalTable {mso-style-name:"Table Normal"; mso-tstyle-rowband-size:0; mso-tstyle-colband-size:0; mso-style-noshow:yes; mso-style-parent:""; mso-padding-alt:0in 5.4pt 0in 5.4pt; mso-para-margin:0in; mso-para-margin-bottom:.0001pt; mso-pagination:widow-orphan; font-size:10.0pt; font-family:"Times New Roman"; mso-ansi-language:#0400; mso-fareast-language:#0400; mso-bidi-language:#0400;} </style> <![endif]--> <p class="MsoNormal">If you are still single and searching for the perfect partner you’ve got to be wondering, “WHY isn’t this happening for me?!”<o:p></o:p></p><p class="MsoNormal">
<br /><o:p></o:p></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><o:p></o:p>Looking for true, lasting love can be frustrating and disappointing.<o:p></o:p></p><p class="MsoNormal">
<br /><o:p></o:p></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><o:p></o:p>But when you’ve got one of the most common love blocks working it’s obstructive action in your life, real love becomes painfully impossible!</p><p class="MsoNormal">
<br /><o:p></o:p></p><p class="MsoNormal"><o:p></o:p>Take a peek inside to see if any of these widespread love detours are delaying the arrival of your vision of relationship bliss. Then discover a powerful way to dissolve these blocks so you can move ahead to make your dreams of love a reality.</p> <p class="MsoNormal"><o:p> </o:p><b style="">
<br /></b></p><p class="MsoNormal"><b style="">Love Blocker 1: Feeling Unworthy<o:p></o:p></b></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><o:p></o:p>Most of us think we’ve resolved any lingering doubts about our worthiness to enjoy a great relationship. But often, there are feelings of self-doubt, low self esteem, or unattractiveness still hidden in our heart. Deep down, we’re just not convinced we’re lovable just the way we are.</p> <p class="MsoNormal"><o:p> </o:p></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><b style="">
<br /></b></p><p class="MsoNormal"><b style="">Love Block Melter 1
<br /></b>It’s time to banish those doubts once and for all. And what’s more powerful than a room full of friends holding up a mirror showing you how awesome you really are!? So gather your closest friends and family and throw a Gratitude Party. </p> <p class="MsoNormal"><o:p> </o:p></p> <p class="MsoNormal">
<br /></p><p class="MsoNormal">Have each person write a letter sand read it out loud, telling you why you deserve to have the most loving relationship. When you are surrounded by this much authentic love, it’ll melt away old wounds in a heart beat!</p> <p class="MsoNormal"><o:p> </o:p></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><o:p> </o:p></p><p class="MsoNormal"><o:p>
<br /></o:p></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><b style="">Love Blocker 2: Fear of Being Hurt<o:p></o:p></b></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><o:p></o:p>Nothing hurts worse than a broken heart, and after about the 10<sup>th</sup> time, many people wall up their hearts and put in heavy-duty security to ensure they never feel that way again. But then, the good love can’t get through either and many a well-meaning partner will give up trying to break down the walls. </p> <p class="MsoNormal"><o:p> </o:p></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><b style="">
<br /></b></p><p class="MsoNormal"><b style="">Love Block Melter 2<o:p></o:p></b></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><b style=""><o:p></o:p></b>Get back in the game and start taking smart risks. Once you meet a quality potential partner, whom all your friends agree seems good for you, begin opening up slowly and surely. Share yourself like a fine novel, allowing them to see all sides of yourself, one chapter at a time. </p> <p class="MsoNormal"><o:p> </o:p></p> <p class="MsoNormal">
<br /></p><p class="MsoNormal">If they start to act untrustworthy, put on the brakes and proceed with caution, only investing yourself in equal amounts to what they offer you- this ensures the relationships grows in balance- and hinders major heartbreak. <!--[if !supportLineBreakNewLine]--> <!--[endif]--></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><o:p>
<br /></o:p></p><p class="MsoNormal"><o:p> </o:p></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><b style="">Love Blocker 3: Repeating Past Mistakes<o:p></o:p></b></p> <p class="MsoNormal">Nothing will net you a broken heart faster than repeating the same old painful mistakes…falling for the same deadbeat type, or playing out patterns that cause pain.</p> <p class="MsoNormal">It’s time to create a healthy new map to love!</p> <p class="MsoNormal"><o:p> </o:p></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><b style="">
<br /></b></p><p class="MsoNormal"><b style="">Love Block Melter 3<o:p></o:p></b></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><o:p> </o:p>Sit down with a trusted friend and review your past partners and relationships. Notice any commonalities that lead to destructive outcomes. Once you know where you’ve gone astray, you can set new guidelines to steer your love life in a new rewarding direction. Then keep your friend on tap to remind you when you’re straying into dangerous territory. By making small, ongoing corrections in your course, you can be onto real love around the next corner!</p><p class="MsoNormal">
<br /></p><p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-weight: bold;">READERS: What's been YOUR biggest block to love? Please share!</span>
<br /></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><o:p> </o:p></p> Dr. Jennhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17033688263726004079noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4858723771721649617.post-52876675688973907952010-05-05T15:11:00.000-07:002010-05-07T15:11:58.993-07:003 Unexpected Places to Meet the Perfect Partner!<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_B1pswuhfetw/S-HuLd333AI/AAAAAAAAApo/ig_bA8bcqcw/s1600/j0440327.jpg"><img style="margin: 0pt 0pt 10px 10px; float: right; cursor: pointer; width: 134px; height: 200px;" src="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_B1pswuhfetw/S-HuLd333AI/AAAAAAAAApo/ig_bA8bcqcw/s200/j0440327.jpg" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5467913303369440258" border="0" /></a>
<br /><meta equiv="Content-Type" content="text/html; charset=utf-8"><meta name="ProgId" content="Word.Document"><meta name="Generator" content="Microsoft Word 11"><meta name="Originator" content="Microsoft Word 11"><link rel="File-List" href="file:///C:%5CDOCUME%7E1%5CCOMPAQ%7E1%5CLOCALS%7E1%5CTemp%5Cmsohtml1%5C01%5Cclip_filelist.xml"><!--[if gte mso 9]><xml> <w:worddocument> <w:view>Normal</w:View> <w:zoom>0</w:Zoom> <w:punctuationkerning/> <w:validateagainstschemas/> <w:saveifxmlinvalid>false</w:SaveIfXMLInvalid> <w:ignoremixedcontent>false</w:IgnoreMixedContent> <w:alwaysshowplaceholdertext>false</w:AlwaysShowPlaceholderText> <w:compatibility> <w:breakwrappedtables/> <w:snaptogridincell/> <w:wraptextwithpunct/> <w:useasianbreakrules/> <w:dontgrowautofit/> </w:Compatibility> <w:browserlevel>MicrosoftInternetExplorer4</w:BrowserLevel> </w:WordDocument> </xml><![endif]--><!--[if gte mso 9]><xml> <w:latentstyles deflockedstate="false" latentstylecount="156"> </w:LatentStyles> </xml><![endif]--><style> <!-- /* Style Definitions */ p.MsoNormal, li.MsoNormal, div.MsoNormal {mso-style-parent:""; margin:0in; margin-bottom:.0001pt; mso-pagination:widow-orphan; font-size:12.0pt; font-family:"Times New Roman"; mso-fareast-font-family:"Times New Roman";} @page Section1 {size:8.5in 11.0in; margin:.7in 1.1in .7in 1.0in; mso-header-margin:.5in; mso-footer-margin:.5in; mso-paper-source:0;} div.Section1 {page:Section1;} --> </style><!--[if gte mso 10]> <style> /* Style Definitions */ table.MsoNormalTable {mso-style-name:"Table Normal"; mso-tstyle-rowband-size:0; mso-tstyle-colband-size:0; mso-style-noshow:yes; mso-style-parent:""; mso-padding-alt:0in 5.4pt 0in 5.4pt; mso-para-margin:0in; mso-para-margin-bottom:.0001pt; mso-pagination:widow-orphan; font-size:10.0pt; font-family:"Times New Roman"; mso-ansi-language:#0400; mso-fareast-language:#0400; mso-bidi-language:#0400;} </style> <![endif]--> <p class="MsoNormal">As a dating coach, the first question my single clients always ask me is: Where do I find The One?!</p> <p class="MsoNormal"><o:p> </o:p></p> <p class="MsoNormal">
<br /></p><p class="MsoNormal">Of course, if I had the <i style="">real</i> answer to that question, I’d be a psychic worth millions!</p> <p class="MsoNormal"><o:p> </o:p></p> <p class="MsoNormal">
<br /></p><p class="MsoNormal">But there are some unexpected places you may not have thought about to bump into true love.</p> <p class="MsoNormal"><o:p> </o:p></p> <p class="MsoNormal">
<br /></p><p class="MsoNormal">By taking a trip off the beaten path, you may just luck into the cutie you’ve been waiting for.</p> <p class="MsoNormal"><o:p> </o:p></p> <p class="MsoNormal">
<br /></p><p class="MsoNormal">Try hanging out in these surprising hot spots for finding love.</p> <p class="MsoNormal"><o:p> </o:p></p> <p class="MsoNormal">
<br /></p><p class="MsoNormal">And contrary to the bar scene, where you have NO idea whether that attractive person has anything in common with you, when you check out these spots- you’ll already know who might just enjoy the same things as you. </p> <p class="MsoNormal"><o:p> </o:p></p> <p class="MsoNormal">
<br /></p><p class="MsoNormal">Which gives you a perfect, easy opportunity to charmingly start a conversation which may just lead you to the date of your dreams!</p> <p class="MsoNormal"><o:p> </o:p></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><b style="">
<br /></b></p><p class="MsoNormal"><b style="">3 Unexpected Places to Meet the Perfect Partner<o:p></o:p></b></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><b style=""><o:p> </o:p></b></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><b style="">
<br /></b></p><p class="MsoNormal"><b style="">1. The Library<o:p></o:p></b></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><b style=""><o:p> </o:p></b></p> <p class="MsoNormal">
<br /></p><p class="MsoNormal">Everyone knows that the book lover’s sexy cousin, the trendy Bookstore, is a fine place to happen upon an attractive stranger. </p> <p class="MsoNormal"><o:p> </o:p></p> <p class="MsoNormal">
<br /></p><p class="MsoNormal">But did you know how hip the library is these days?! It’s not the stuffy old library of your youth. And lots of smart singles high-tail it over there to get their monthly supply of books and books on tape. </p> <p class="MsoNormal"><o:p> </o:p></p> <p class="MsoNormal">
<br /></p><p class="MsoNormal">There’s one in your neighborhood, so stop by often and browse your favorite sections. When you see someone who sparks your interest, try this…</p> <p class="MsoNormal"><o:p> </o:p></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><b style="">
<br /></b></p><p class="MsoNormal"><b style="">Perfect Partner Pick-Up Line:<o:p></o:p></b></p> <p class="MsoNormal">
<br /></p><p class="MsoNormal">“I see you like the same kinds of books I do, I’m looking for something really interesting. What’s your favorite?”</p> <p class="MsoNormal"><o:p> </o:p></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><b style="">
<br /></b></p><p class="MsoNormal"><b style="">2. The Used Music Store<o:p></o:p></b></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><o:p> </o:p></p> <p class="MsoNormal">
<br /></p><p class="MsoNormal">They say that the couple who jams together, stays together! That’s because there is something about the music that moves you, that belies an underlying connection.</p> <p class="MsoNormal"><o:p> </o:p></p> <p class="MsoNormal">
<br /></p><p class="MsoNormal">So check out your local used music place, and see who’s browsing your favorite artists.</p> <p class="MsoNormal"><o:p> </o:p></p> <p class="MsoNormal">
<br /></p><p class="MsoNormal">When you catch a cutie in your section, try this….</p> <p class="MsoNormal"><o:p> </o:p></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><b style="">
<br /></b></p><p class="MsoNormal"><b style="">Perfect Partner Pick-Up Line: <o:p></o:p></b></p> <p class="MsoNormal">
<br /></p><p class="MsoNormal">“I’ve worn out my favorite tracks. Looking for something new- what’s been moving you recently?”</p> <p class="MsoNormal"><b style="">
<br /></b></p><p class="MsoNormal"><b style="">3. The Outdoor Art Show<o:p></o:p></b></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><o:p> </o:p></p> <p class="MsoNormal">
<br /></p><p class="MsoNormal">Summer’s coming and all over the country there are large, cool art & craft shows that draw major, savvy crowds.</p> <p class="MsoNormal"><o:p> </o:p></p> <p class="MsoNormal">
<br /></p><p class="MsoNormal">It’s the perfect place to casually people watch and be on the lookout for the partner of your dreams. </p> <p class="MsoNormal"><o:p> </o:p></p> <p class="MsoNormal">
<br /></p><p class="MsoNormal">When you spot someone you’d love to know inside one of the art booths, try this…</p> <p class="MsoNormal"><o:p> </o:p></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><b style="">
<br /></b></p><p class="MsoNormal"><b style="">Perfect Partner Pick-Up Line: <o:p></o:p></b></p> <p class="MsoNormal">
<br /></p><p class="MsoNormal">“I love these. I’m thinking about getting one of these for my mom/dad. Which one is your favorite?”</p> <p class="MsoNormal"><o:p> </o:p></p> <p class="MsoNormal">
<br /></p><p class="MsoNormal">Your perfect partner could be hiding anywhere, so break out of your rut and check out new locations, where you can have fun no matter who else shows up.</p> <p class="MsoNormal"><o:p> </o:p></p> <p class="MsoNormal">
<br /></p><p class="MsoNormal">And, remember, finding true love isn’t just about where you go, it’s about who you are when you get there. So be sure to put on your happy face and send out the vibe that you’re friendly, warm, and easy to approach. </p> <p class="MsoNormal"><o:p>
<br /></o:p></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><o:p><span style="font-weight: bold;">Singles What's the most unexpected place you ever found a date? Please share!</span>
<br /></o:p></p>Dr. Jennhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17033688263726004079noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4858723771721649617.post-10307451336445094792009-12-23T12:00:00.000-08:002009-12-23T11:49:01.792-08:00A FaceBook Holiday Challenge: A Time to Spread Healing<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/_B1pswuhfetw/Sx7NgmzQvnI/AAAAAAAAAno/UU-IU1PIwyA/s1600-h/forgiveness.jpg"><img style="margin: 0pt 0pt 10px 10px; float: right; cursor: pointer; width: 132px; height: 200px;" src="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/_B1pswuhfetw/Sx7NgmzQvnI/AAAAAAAAAno/UU-IU1PIwyA/s200/forgiveness.jpg" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5412989762200977010" border="0" /></a>
<br /><meta equiv="Content-Type" content="text/html; charset=utf-8"><meta name="ProgId" content="Word.Document"><meta name="Generator" content="Microsoft Word 11"><meta name="Originator" content="Microsoft Word 11"><link rel="File-List" href="file:///C:%5CDOCUME%7E1%5CCOMPAQ%7E1%5CLOCALS%7E1%5CTemp%5Cmsohtml1%5C01%5Cclip_filelist.xml"><o:smarttagtype namespaceuri="urn:schemas-microsoft-com:office:smarttags" name="place"></o:smarttagtype><o:smarttagtype namespaceuri="urn:schemas-microsoft-com:office:smarttags" name="PersonName"></o:smarttagtype><!--[if gte mso 9]><xml> <w:worddocument> <w:view>Normal</w:View> <w:zoom>0</w:Zoom> <w:punctuationkerning/> <w:validateagainstschemas/> <w:saveifxmlinvalid>false</w:SaveIfXMLInvalid> <w:ignoremixedcontent>false</w:IgnoreMixedContent> <w:alwaysshowplaceholdertext>false</w:AlwaysShowPlaceholderText> <w:compatibility> <w:breakwrappedtables/> <w:snaptogridincell/> <w:wraptextwithpunct/> <w:useasianbreakrules/> <w:dontgrowautofit/> </w:Compatibility> <w:browserlevel>MicrosoftInternetExplorer4</w:BrowserLevel> </w:WordDocument> </xml><![endif]--><!--[if gte mso 9]><xml> <w:latentstyles deflockedstate="false" latentstylecount="156"> </w:LatentStyles> </xml><![endif]--><!--[if !mso]><object classid="clsid:38481807-CA0E-42D2-BF39-B33AF135CC4D" id="ieooui"></object> <style> st1\:*{behavior:url(#ieooui) } </style> <![endif]--><style> <!-- /* Style Definitions */ p.MsoNormal, li.MsoNormal, div.MsoNormal {mso-style-parent:""; margin:0in; margin-bottom:.0001pt; mso-pagination:widow-orphan; font-size:12.0pt; font-family:"Times New Roman"; mso-fareast-font-family:"Times New Roman";} @page Section1 {size:8.5in 11.0in; margin:.7in 1.1in .7in 1.0in; mso-header-margin:.5in; mso-footer-margin:.5in; mso-paper-source:0;} div.Section1 {page:Section1;} --> </style><!--[if gte mso 10]> <style> /* Style Definitions */ table.MsoNormalTable {mso-style-name:"Table Normal"; mso-tstyle-rowband-size:0; mso-tstyle-colband-size:0; mso-style-noshow:yes; mso-style-parent:""; mso-padding-alt:0in 5.4pt 0in 5.4pt; mso-para-margin:0in; mso-para-margin-bottom:.0001pt; mso-pagination:widow-orphan; font-size:10.0pt; font-family:"Times New Roman"; mso-ansi-language:#0400; mso-fareast-language:#0400; mso-bidi-language:#0400;} </style> <![endif]--> <p class="MsoNormal">A little while back Time magazine documented the phenomenon of Raging Retrosexuals- the fact that many people are hooking up with long-lost crushes via social media, like Facebook.</p><p class="MsoNormal">
<br /></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><o:p> </o:p></p> <p style="font-weight: bold;" class="MsoNormal">Apparently Facebook is pretty darn decent at connecting you with the people you used to have sex with, or wished you used to have sex with.</p> <p class="MsoNormal"><o:p> </o:p></p> <p class="MsoNormal">
<br /></p><p class="MsoNormal">As a result, it’s been unfortunately good at breaking up marriages. I’d hate to see those numbers.
<br /></p><p class="MsoNormal">
<br /></p><p class="MsoNormal">In fact, it just happened to one of my husband’s best friends- whose wife suddenly up and left their family with 3 kids for her abusive high school boyfriend. Tragic. Really. </p> <p class="MsoNormal"><o:p> </o:p></p> <p class="MsoNormal">
<br /></p><p class="MsoNormal">But, I’ve only been on Facebook a very short time and already I’ve seen how it can be a spring board for the opposite kind of effect: <b style="">Forgiveness.</b> </p> <p class="MsoNormal"><o:p> </o:p></p> <p style="font-weight: bold;" class="MsoNormal">
<br /></p><p style="font-weight: bold;" class="MsoNormal">Yup, shockingly, Facebook can actually lead to healing long time wounds, instead of ripping open new ones.</p> <p class="MsoNormal"><o:p> </o:p></p> <p class="MsoNormal">
<br /></p><p class="MsoNormal">One of the first emails I got through FB was from a long lost lover. Well, not really a lover per se, because we never had sex. But that doesn’t mean that we didn’t trade sexual favors for feelings of self worth. </p> <p class="MsoNormal"><o:p> </o:p></p> <p class="MsoNormal">
<br /></p><p class="MsoNormal">Which of course is never a healthy thing. But I admit it, my mother never told me that boys like to use girls to satisfy certain needs. And unfortunately, I had unmet needs of my own- to feel loved, valued, worthy.</p> <p class="MsoNormal"><o:p> </o:p></p> <p class="MsoNormal">
<br /></p><p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-weight: bold;">So like millions of teenage girls, then and now, I fell into the trap of trying to use sex to feel better about myself.</span> It doesn’t work for long as many of you know.</p> <p class="MsoNormal"><o:p> </o:p></p> <p class="MsoNormal">
<br /></p><p class="MsoNormal">But I tried that strategy for years, racking up a ton of heartbreak. And leaving behind a wake of young men grateful for the feel-good sex, but little else. </p> <p class="MsoNormal"><o:p> </o:p></p> <p class="MsoNormal">
<br /></p><p class="MsoNormal">I eventually worked through those issues and stop giving myself away for such a low price. I never looked back angrily at those guys, I mean, I offered myself willingly. <span style="font-weight: bold;">It was a lesson I needed to learn. </span></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><o:p> </o:p></p> <p class="MsoNormal">
<br /></p><p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-weight: bold;">Yet, here unexpectedly in my brand-new Facebook Inbox was an apology of sorts. </span>From a man who had grown up and recognized that perhaps all his actions weren’t entirely honorable. He didn’t have to do that- he certainly wasn't the worst of offenders. </p> <p class="MsoNormal"><o:p> </o:p></p> <p class="MsoNormal">
<br /></p><p style="font-weight: bold;" class="MsoNormal">It was simple and said, “Is it too late for apologies?”</p> <p class="MsoNormal"><o:p> </o:p></p> <p class="MsoNormal">
<br /></p><p class="MsoNormal">It wasn’t even specific about what he was apologizing for. </p> <p class="MsoNormal"><o:p> </o:p></p> <p class="MsoNormal">
<br /></p><p style="font-weight: bold;" class="MsoNormal">Yet of course, it is never too late to be sorry for how you treated someone. </p> <p class="MsoNormal"><o:p> </o:p></p> <p class="MsoNormal">
<br /></p><p class="MsoNormal">And in that moment, my heart poured open with appreciation for the gift of the simple recognition that “Yes, indeed, a long time ago, my feelings were hurt.” </p> <p class="MsoNormal"><o:p> </o:p></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><b style="">
<br /></b></p><p class="MsoNormal"><b style="">I decided to allow that one simple acknowledgment to stand-in for an apology from every single man who I ever felt "used" by. And just like that, all of the long-forgotten and hidden hurts that resided in my soul melted away, released at last.</b></p><p class="MsoNormal">
<br /></p><p class="MsoNormal"><meta equiv="Content-Type" content="text/html; charset=utf-8"><meta name="ProgId" content="Word.Document"><meta name="Generator" content="Microsoft Word 11"><meta name="Originator" content="Microsoft Word 11"><link rel="File-List" href="file:///C:%5CDOCUME%7E1%5CCOMPAQ%7E1%5CLOCALS%7E1%5CTemp%5Cmsohtml1%5C01%5Cclip_filelist.xml"><!--[if gte mso 9]><xml> <w:worddocument> <w:view>Normal</w:View> <w:zoom>0</w:Zoom> <w:punctuationkerning/> <w:validateagainstschemas/> <w:saveifxmlinvalid>false</w:SaveIfXMLInvalid> <w:ignoremixedcontent>false</w:IgnoreMixedContent> <w:alwaysshowplaceholdertext>false</w:AlwaysShowPlaceholderText> <w:compatibility> <w:breakwrappedtables/> <w:snaptogridincell/> <w:wraptextwithpunct/> <w:useasianbreakrules/> <w:dontgrowautofit/> </w:Compatibility> <w:browserlevel>MicrosoftInternetExplorer4</w:BrowserLevel> </w:WordDocument> </xml><![endif]--><!--[if gte mso 9]><xml> <w:latentstyles deflockedstate="false" latentstylecount="156"> </w:LatentStyles> </xml><![endif]--><style> <!-- /* Style Definitions */ p.MsoNormal, li.MsoNormal, div.MsoNormal {mso-style-parent:""; margin:0in; margin-bottom:.0001pt; mso-pagination:widow-orphan; font-size:12.0pt; font-family:"Times New Roman"; mso-fareast-font-family:"Times New Roman";} @page Section1 {size:8.5in 11.0in; margin:1.0in 1.25in 1.0in 1.25in; mso-header-margin:.5in; mso-footer-margin:.5in; mso-paper-source:0;} div.Section1 {page:Section1;} --> </style><!--[if gte mso 10]> <style> /* Style Definitions */ table.MsoNormalTable {mso-style-name:"Table Normal"; mso-tstyle-rowband-size:0; mso-tstyle-colband-size:0; mso-style-noshow:yes; mso-style-parent:""; mso-padding-alt:0in 5.4pt 0in 5.4pt; mso-para-margin:0in; mso-para-margin-bottom:.0001pt; mso-pagination:widow-orphan; font-size:10.0pt; font-family:"Times New Roman"; mso-ansi-language:#0400; mso-fareast-language:#0400; mso-bidi-language:#0400;} </style> <![endif]--> </p><p class="MsoNormal">And I sent him back my own apology because it takes two to tango and no doubt my behavior had some uncomfortable effect on him.
<br /></p><p class="MsoNormal">
<br /></p><p class="MsoNormal">By acknowledging the result of our choices and how they have affected others, even unintentionally, we step into integrity with our highest good and the highest good of all concerned. </p> <p style="font-weight: bold;" class="MsoNormal"><o:p> </o:p>
<br /></p><p style="font-weight: bold;" class="MsoNormal">We take back our power and full self-respect.</p> <p></p><p class="MsoNormal">
<br /><b style=""><o:p></o:p></b></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><o:p> </o:p></p> <p class="MsoNormal">That, my friends is the power of apology and forgiveness. That sometimes, <u>with even the slightest effort</u>, decades of hurt can be healed. Often more deeply, widely, and profoundly then you would ever fathom to guess.</p> <p class="MsoNormal"><o:p> </o:p></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><b style="">
<br /></b></p><p class="MsoNormal"><b style="">We all have this power to touch each other, to offer healing. How can we withhold it? <o:p></o:p></b></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><o:p> </o:p></p> <p class="MsoNormal">
<br /></p><p class="MsoNormal">And apparently social media like Facebook can provide the avenue to connect with long ago companions, so that things may at long last be righted. </p> <p class="MsoNormal"><o:p> </o:p></p> <p class="MsoNormal">
<br /></p><p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-weight: bold;">So, in this holiday season, where people are often saddened by the hurt and lack found in their past and present relationships, I’d like to suggest that we choose to </span><st1:personname style="font-weight: bold;" st="on">conscious</st1:personname><span style="font-weight: bold;">ly use social media for a different purpose: </span><b style="">
<br /></b></p><p class="MsoNormal"><b style="">
<br /></b></p><p style="color: rgb(0, 0, 102);" class="MsoNormal"><b style="">To create a surge of healing throughout the land.</b> </p> <p class="MsoNormal"><o:p> </o:p></p> <p class="MsoNormal">
<br /></p><p class="MsoNormal">Let’s ride the wave of the true meaning of Christmas and take that spirit of giving, healing, and forgiveness to a new level by having the courage to bring all of our relationships back to LOVE.</p> <p class="MsoNormal"><o:p> </o:p></p> <p class="MsoNormal">
<br /></p><p class="MsoNormal">Last spring I wrote a blog about the need for <a href="http://attractyoursoulmate.blogspot.com/2009/05/is-it-time-for-spring-cleaning-power-of.html">Completion</a>- to go back to every relationship where something was left unsaid, undone, and to say and do those things which would put us in integrity and give us positive closure. And I gave you a powerful meditation to assist you on that journey. </p> <p class="MsoNormal"><o:p> </o:p></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><b style="">
<br /></b></p><p class="MsoNormal"><b style="">Completion is needed now more than ever so that we can move into the New Year, fresh and unencumbered by the weights from the past.</b> Only from that clean slate, can we create a truly gorgeous vision of our lives.</p> <p class="MsoNormal"><o:p> </o:p></p> <p class="MsoNormal">
<br /></p><p style="font-weight: bold;" class="MsoNormal">That’s my challenge to you this <st1:place st="on">Holiday:</st1:place> Choose to bring back all of your relationships to Love with Completion. </p> <p class="MsoNormal"><o:p> </o:p></p> <p class="MsoNormal">
<br /></p><p class="MsoNormal">And if Facebook and other social media can help you do that- than so be it.</p><p class="MsoNormal">
<br /></p><p class="MsoNormal">I’m accepting my own challenge and have a list of people here with whom I want to offer a message of apology. Things I’m sorry for, things I’m grateful for. I’ll be working my way down the list until it’s Complete. </p> <p class="MsoNormal"><o:p> </o:p></p> <p class="MsoNormal">
<br /></p><p class="MsoNormal">And if there are people out there who think I owe them an apology, please let me know. Sometimes we remain unaware of the extent of our behavior on others. </p> <p class="MsoNormal"><o:p> </o:p></p> <p class="MsoNormal">
<br /></p><p style="font-weight: bold;" class="MsoNormal">But with an open heart and an open mind, together, we can all create the healing upon this Earth that humanity needs at this time. One relationship at a time. </p> <p class="MsoNormal"><o:p> </o:p></p> <p class="MsoNormal">
<br /></p><p class="MsoNormal">Rejoice in the spirit of the <st1:place st="on">Holiday</st1:place> friends, because love is here to stay! </p> <p class="MsoNormal"><o:p> </o:p></p><p class="MsoNormal"><o:p> </o:p></p> Dr. Jennhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17033688263726004079noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4858723771721649617.post-73691293323334857262009-10-01T13:23:00.000-07:002009-10-01T14:02:23.767-07:00Inaugural Adventure Dating Event was a Success!<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_B1pswuhfetw/SsUSSB841jI/AAAAAAAAAkQ/6sROR2A96P8/s1600-h/ice+breaker+line.jpg"><img style="margin: 0pt 0pt 10px 10px; float: right; cursor: pointer; width: 166px; height: 200px;" src="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_B1pswuhfetw/SsUSSB841jI/AAAAAAAAAkQ/6sROR2A96P8/s200/ice+breaker+line.jpg" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5387732630189430322" border="0" /></a><br />Last weekend, we hosted the first ever, <span style="font-weight: bold;">Adventure</span><span style="font-weight: bold;"> Dating at the Ranch</span> event, at my holistic healing horse ranch, <a href="http://www.happilyeverafterranch.com/">Happily Ever After</a>, outside Denver Colorado.<br /><br />We had a huge turnout with 56 singles who were courageously ready for an Adventure in Love!<br /><br />As rotating teams, they got to experience 9 Adventure Stations with a variety of active, creative, and get-to-know-you challenges. All designed to have fun while you get an inside peek into each other's real personality.<br /><br />Laughter was heard throughout the property!<br /><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_B1pswuhfetw/SsURcJLYGWI/AAAAAAAAAjo/BchiwybXLdM/s1600-h/noodle+golf+1.jpg"><img style="margin: 0pt 0pt 10px 10px; float: right; cursor: pointer; width: 200px; height: 181px;" src="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_B1pswuhfetw/SsURcJLYGWI/AAAAAAAAAjo/BchiwybXLdM/s200/noodle+golf+1.jpg" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5387731704416311650" border="0" /></a><br />Remember, how I told you the only reason we hosted this event was because I had the inspiration that <span style="font-weight: bold;">someone was supposed to meet their </span><span style="font-weight: bold;">sou</span><span style="font-weight: bold;">lmate</span>???<br /><br />Well, 14 matches were made that day and already several of them have taken off at a full speed run toward love!<br /><br />I can't wait to hear how these new couples forge ahead on their journey toward creating their own Happily Ever After!<br /><br />Check out the fun during the 3 active challenges: Noodle Golf, Blind Duo Obstacle Course, Tethered-to-Me Obstacle Challenge.<br /><br /><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/_B1pswuhfetw/SsUX9k0ht9I/AAAAAAAAAkg/bZ3UoElEDBw/s1600-h/blind+2.jpg"><img style="margin: 0pt 10px 10px 0pt; float: left; cursor: pointer; width: 177px; height: 200px;" src="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/_B1pswuhfetw/SsUX9k0ht9I/AAAAAAAAAkg/bZ3UoElEDBw/s200/blind+2.jpg" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5387738875842115538" border="0" /></a><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_B1pswuhfetw/SsUYxlJCfgI/AAAAAAAAAkw/Q10pPhKot3U/s1600-h/Tether+3.jpg"><img style="margin: 0pt 0pt 10px 10px; float: right; cursor: pointer; width: 174px; height: 200px;" src="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_B1pswuhfetw/SsUYxlJCfgI/AAAAAAAAAkw/Q10pPhKot3U/s200/Tether+3.jpg" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5387739769281347074" border="0" /></a><br /><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_B1pswuhfetw/SsUR4yqZvdI/AAAAAAAAAj4/VsfLCfRIF1Y/s1600-h/Tether+1.jpg"><br /></a>Dr. Jennhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17033688263726004079noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4858723771721649617.post-36876372947278587092009-08-18T21:58:00.000-07:002009-08-18T22:21:16.992-07:00Why I am Convinced that Someone is Going to Meet Their Soulmate at Adventure Speed Dating on Sept 26!<span style="font-weight: bold;">I can *almost* guarantee that someone is going to meet their soulmate on Saturday, Septmeber 26th at our inaugrual <span style="font-style: italic;">Adventure Speed Dating at the Ranch</span> event outside Denver, CO!</span><br /><br />"Why?," you ask. Read on.<br /><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/_B1pswuhfetw/SouJwBcLLtI/AAAAAAAAAgo/9BJJ3nTrdXg/s1600-h/greg+dips+jenn.jpg"><img style="margin: 0pt 0pt 10px 10px; float: right; cursor: pointer; width: 150px; height: 200px;" src="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/_B1pswuhfetw/SouJwBcLLtI/AAAAAAAAAgo/9BJJ3nTrdXg/s200/greg+dips+jenn.jpg" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5371538438682783442" border="0" /></a><br />As some of you already know, my passion is helping singles attract their soulmate. Since the time I was 12 years old, I’ve never been interested in anything else but love!<br /><br />But honestly, before now I’ve never been interested in hosting big events like this one. Helping people one on one and in small groups is more my cup of tea.<br /><br />Then, inspiration struck.<br /><br />Funny, really.<br /><br />I was listening to a meditation tape so I should have been focused on it, but I found myself thinking about my friend and colleague <a href="http://www.maryjofay.com/">Mary Jo Fay</a>, who hosts bi-weekly singles events (<a href="http://singles.meetup.com/1560/" class="url"><span id="bannerGroupName" class="fn org">Denver 's Best Dating, Mating, and Relating Group</span></a>). My immediate thought was: “I’d never want to host an event like that.”<br /><br />Instantly, however, <span style="font-weight: bold;">the idea of Adventure Speed Dating popped into my mind</span>. Actually, the details of it flooded my brain. So much so that I couldn’t finish my meditation!!!<br /><br />I let the ideas come in and settled on, “Hmm, that’s interesting. Sounds like a great concept. But I have no interest in hosting an event.”<br /><br />And I put the idea to rest.<br /><br /><span style="font-weight: bold;">Only it wouldn’t let me rest. Literally.</span><br /><br />For several nights, I would fall asleep, only to wake up an hour later. Once again, details for the event poured in, one idea after another.<br /><br />“Ok, Ok, I get it, it’s a fantastic idea. But still, I don’t want to do it,” was my reply.<br /><br />By the third night of this incessant information download, I scribbled down the details and I finally pleaded with the powers that be: <span style="font-weight: bold;">“FINE! I’ll do it if you will let me get back to sleep!”</span><br /><br />With that promise came a sudden knowing that went like this, <span style="font-weight: bold; color: rgb(51, 51, 153);">“Great, because someone is supposed to meet their soulmate at this event, so we really need you to keep your word!”</span><br /><br />So, here it is, my contribution to helping soulmates find each other. <span style="font-weight: bold;">It’s bound to happen, otherwise the idea would have died a cold and lonely death the first time it came to me.</span><br /><br />Because I’ve learned there is no coincidence- only serendipity. Call it what you will- intuition, gut feeling, a hunch, Universal Guidance. <span style="font-weight: bold;">When it comes in strongly, I’ve discovered you are a fool to ignore it. </span><br /><br />And besides, now I am totally jazzed because I think, <span style="font-weight: bold;">"What's cooler than helping </span><span style="font-weight: bold;">soulmates find each other, especially if it's fun to boot?!"</span><br /><br />And so, that's how Adventure Speed Dating at the Ranch was born. And I can’t wait to see who gets to meet their soulmate!<br /><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/_B1pswuhfetw/SouKEv3C5dI/AAAAAAAAAgw/miVNMGn7biA/s1600-h/vows2.jpg"><img style="margin: 0pt 0pt 10px 10px; float: right; cursor: pointer; width: 150px; height: 200px;" src="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/_B1pswuhfetw/SouKEv3C5dI/AAAAAAAAAgw/miVNMGn7biA/s200/vows2.jpg" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5371538794740901330" border="0" /></a><br />If I told you the story of how I met my soulmate, Greg, you’d believe that serendipity plays a role. Now that I have that amazing kind of love in my life, I’m committed to helping everyone else find it too.<br /><br /><span style="font-weight: bold;">So, if you’ve found your way to this web page, if you’ve heard about this even</span><span style="font-weight: bold;">t in any way at all, there is probably a good reason.</span> Consider yourself Universally Guided to be there. And I’m extending to you a warm, personal invitation.<br /><br />I, for one, listened to the Guidance (even if it was unwillingly at first!). I did my part. Now all you have to do is show up too!<br /><br />Then we can both laugh at how neither one of us originally wanted to come, but heck yea, it was fun and wasn’t it the best decision we ever made!<br /><br />After all, I’d hate for <span style="font-style: italic; font-weight: bold;">you</span> to miss your soulmate!<br /><br />So, head on over to reserve your spot before they all fill up: <a href="http://www.mysoulmatesolution.com/articles/AdventureSpeedDating">Adventure Dating at the Ranch.<br /></a><br />Here’s to soulmates coming together in perfect harmony,<br /><br />Dr. Jenn<br /><br />PS. By the way, if you have a friend who has been waiting, wishing, and hoping to find a soulmate who doesn’t seem to be showing up- now may be the time to beg, plead, or cajole them into coming with you. <span style="font-weight: bold;">Because you may very well be the human angel designated to lead them to their soulmate. </span><span style="font-style: italic;">You </span>may be the link that brings them together!Dr. Jennhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17033688263726004079noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4858723771721649617.post-68748306460015602622009-08-17T11:53:00.000-07:002009-08-17T12:25:52.053-07:00So, He Didn't Call When He Said He Would? Using the Handy, "I Noticed..." Statement<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/_B1pswuhfetw/Somtv_LaWZI/AAAAAAAAAfo/NLSdIN-F7Wc/s1600-h/phone.jpg"><img style="margin: 0pt 0pt 10px 10px; float: right; cursor: pointer; width: 161px; height: 200px;" src="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/_B1pswuhfetw/Somtv_LaWZI/AAAAAAAAAfo/NLSdIN-F7Wc/s200/phone.jpg" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5371015070540781970" border="0" /></a><br />I wish I could say that this hardly ever happens, so don't worry about it. But people not keeping their word happens all the time, especially when dating!<br /><br />So, what to do when he doesn't call when he said he would? That's what one of my clients wanted to know recently.<br /><br />Here's what I told her.<br /><br />Typically- if someone does something like this once, you can blow it off (if you want)- but if it happens <span style="font-style: italic;">more than once</span>, then don't ever ignore it!<br /><br />Ignoring things never makes them go away- it usually makes them worse!<br /><br />Why? Because when someone does something more than once, they are showing you a <span style="font-style: italic;">pattern of behavior</span>. <span style="font-weight: bold;">And patterns indicate their underlying personality</span>.<br /><br />And when YOU put up with a pattern of behavior from someone- <span style="font-weight: bold; font-style: italic;">you set up the expectation that the behavior is <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_0">ok</span> with you. </span><br /><span style="font-weight: bold;"><br />Which means: You'll get more of the same behavior in the future. </span><br /><br />So, when someone doesn't keep their word and that's not <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_1">ok</span> with you (as it shouldn't be!), then it's worth addressing.<br /><br />Lucky you, handling these supposedly "uncomfortable" topics, can be super simple when you know how to use the "I Noticed..." Strategy.<br /><br />Here's how to stand up for yourself and set clear, healthy boundaries, right from the beginning with the people in your life, love life included.<br /><br /><span style="font-weight: bold;">Using the "I Noticed..." Strategy</span><br /><br /><span style="font-weight: bold;">Step 1: Find a quiet, calm time to bring up your concern.</span><br /><br />That means you are relaxed and no longer ticked off.<br />AND, it seems like a <span class="blsp-spelling-corrected" id="SPELLING_ERROR_2">convenient</span>, easy-going time for your friend.<br /><br /><span style="font-weight: bold;">Step 2: Bring up your concern gracefully, casually using "I noticed..."</span><br /><br />Just casually work into your conversation something like:<br />"Hey, <span style="font-weight: bold;">I noticed</span> ... that you were going to call on Tues but I didn't hear from you till today...."<br /><br /><span style="font-weight: bold;">Step 3: Pause and WAIT for their response.</span><br /><br />Just let your "I noticed" statement hang out there for a moment and they will have to say something about it. <span style="font-weight: bold;">Usually you will learn <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_3">alot</span> from what the person says next. </span><br /><br />Either you'll get a useful explanation and/or apology, or you may get a bunch of BS.<br /><br />Either way, you are learning more about this person to help you decide if this is indeed someone you want in your life.<br /><br />You may chat a bit from here, or...<br /><br /><span style="font-weight: bold;">Step 4: Make a clear request by setting your boundary.</span><br /><br />Often, it's helpful to end your discussion with a clear request about what you need.<br /><br /><span style="font-weight: bold;">Something like, "Hey that's cool this time, but just so you know, keeping my word is really important to me, so I'd appreciate it if we both kept our word to each other."</span><br /><br />Right here, you've made your expectations clear. You are setting the boundary for how it's <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_4">ok</span> to treat you.<br /><br />Plus- by putting it in "we" terms, you make it clear that you aren't pointing the finger, this isn't only about THEM.<br /><br /><span style="font-weight: bold;">It about the two of you together, in relationship to each other. </span><br /><br />So, it's more about entering into an explicit agreement to pay attention to each other's needs, rather than a slap on the wrist.<br /><br />From here, things will either go swimmingly in the future, or not so much- if they aren't the right person for you.<br /><br /><span style="font-weight: bold;">Step 5: Follow up the next time</span><br /><br />Hopefully, your new expectation will clear up any misunderstanding and things go full speed ahead. But if your new partner can't or won't respect your request- then you pretty much have your decision made for you: They just aren't a good fit for you.<br /><br />If it happens again, try something like:<br /><br />"Gee, I noticed that even though we talked about keeping our word to each other, it seems like that just isn't happening. What do you think is up with that?"<br /><br /><span style="font-weight: bold;">These types of conversations either bring you closer as you come to a deeper understanding of each other, or they drive you apart because you simply don't see the world or your <span class="blsp-spelling-corrected" id="SPELLING_ERROR_5">relationship</span> the same way.</span><br /><br />However it goes, it brings the <span style="font-weight: bold;">Gift of Clarity</span> to you so you know how best to move forward towards your goal of creating a love that lasts a lifetime!<br /><br /><span style="font-weight: bold;">Readers: </span>Try out the "I noticed..." statement with someone in your life today and let us know how it goes!Dr. Jennhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17033688263726004079noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4858723771721649617.post-25623632617321741022009-07-14T13:49:00.000-07:002009-07-14T13:58:42.595-07:00Key to Attraction: Are You Radiating Brilliance?<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/_B1pswuhfetw/Slzw_fqyPxI/AAAAAAAAAaQ/Q3Myktq92cQ/s1600-h/j0441048.jpg"><img style="margin: 0pt 0pt 10px 10px; float: right; cursor: pointer; width: 200px; height: 200px;" src="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/_B1pswuhfetw/Slzw_fqyPxI/AAAAAAAAAaQ/Q3Myktq92cQ/s200/j0441048.jpg" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5358422630287425298" border="0" /></a><br />I was out the other weekend at the nightclub <a href="http://www.proofniteclub.com/">Proof</a>- it’s a popular Denver dance spot for the 40+ crowd.<br /><br />I was chatting with some folks about what it takes to attract your soulmate, or heck, even your next date, when I noticed a very interesting woman on the dance floor.<br /><br />I was drawn to her not because of her extraordinary good looks, but because of her GLOW.<br /><br />She had an effervescent charm that exuded from every pore of her. She was not the youngest, the most scantily clad, or the best looking woman in the place- but she was clearly, unabashedly ENJOYING herself.<br /><br />The result?<br /><span style="font-weight: bold;"><br />I almost couldn’t take my eyes off of her- I loved watching her dance because her warm, happy, playful spirit showed through.</span><br /><br />I would bet you that every man in the place noticed her the way I noticed her- because she was <span style="font-weight: bold;">shining such brilliance you couldn’t help but be attracted to her radiance!</span><br /><br />Sure, it didn’t hurt that she was wearing a cute outfit that included a fashionable skirt- but what was so compelling about her was the <span style="font-weight: bold;">relaxed, confident, fun-loving vibe</span> she put off so easily, effortlessly.<br /><br />That’s the <span style="font-weight: bold;">Soulmate Magnet Vibe.</span><br /><br />And when <span style="font-style: italic;">you</span> master stepping into your Best, most Authentic Self, you’ll be able to shine that radiant brilliance and attract the attention of great, emotionally available partners who are ready to share themselves with you.<br /><br /><span style="font-weight: bold;">Readers: What helps you step into your own Brilliant Radiance? And how do others respond to you? Please share!</span><br /><br />If you are ready to own your Best, Authentic Self and attract your perfect partner, skip on over to www.MySoulmateSolution.com for all of the resources you need for support on your soulmate journey!Dr. Jennhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17033688263726004079noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4858723771721649617.post-75815253486766222012009-06-02T13:38:00.000-07:002009-06-02T13:46:17.035-07:00Freeing Yourself: Listen to the Embrace Your Emotions Meditation<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/_B1pswuhfetw/SiWPFq8FmQI/AAAAAAAAAXw/pAJVUDweykY/s1600-h/lady+mountaintop.jpg"><img style="margin: 0pt 0pt 10px 10px; float: right; cursor: pointer; width: 138px; height: 92px;" src="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/_B1pswuhfetw/SiWPFq8FmQI/AAAAAAAAAXw/pAJVUDweykY/s200/lady+mountaintop.jpg" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5342833860533393666" border="0" /></a><br />Most of us spend a lot of energy protecting ourselves from our emotions: denying, resisting, repressing, distracting- anything but allowing them!<br /><br /><span style="font-weight: bold;">But the key to peace and happiness</span><em style="font-weight: bold;"> </em><span style="font-weight: bold;">is learning to embrace ALL of your emotions.</span><br /><br />This can be especially tricky when dating- which is known as being an emotional roller coaster ride of highs and lows.<br /><br /><span style="font-weight: bold;">But if you can practice welcoming </span><span style="font-style: italic; font-weight: bold;">all</span><span style="font-weight: bold;"> of your feelings, even the uncomfortable ones, they will pass more quickly- <span style="font-style: italic;">leaving you in that peaceful, calm place that attracts a great partner!</span></span><br /><br />So discover how to stop struggling with your emotions and rest in that open, warm, loving space that will invite wonderful people and opportunities into your life.<br /><br />Listen Now: 19 min<br /><br /><!-- AudioAcrobat.com Player code BEGIN --><br /><div class="aaplayer"><iframe src="http://www.audioacrobat.com/playweb?audioid=P2ea0481f4f95a44e10f965fa82d1d962ZVx%2FRHhuY2F0Ww&buffer=5&shape=6&fc=00CCFF&pc=6699FF&kc=66CCFF&bc=000099&brand=1&player=ap29" scrolling="no" width="138" frameborder="0" height="40"></iframe></div><br />Join us every Monday at noon, Mountain time for another great Meditation Monday!<br /><br />NEW Call In NUMBER: 218-862-7200<br />Access Code : 909472<br /><br /><span style="font-weight: bold;">Readers:</span> How did accepting a difficult emotion open up space for attraction in your life? Please share!<br /><!-- AudioAcrobat.com Player code END -->Dr. Jennhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17033688263726004079noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4858723771721649617.post-10979683744776734052009-05-27T14:21:00.000-07:002009-07-14T14:00:32.389-07:00Attracting Love from the Inside Out<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/_B1pswuhfetw/Slzx3o9s_iI/AAAAAAAAAaY/8wo2RF_O3Gw/s1600-h/j0430526.jpg"><img style="margin: 0pt 0pt 10px 10px; float: right; cursor: pointer; width: 146px; height: 200px;" src="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/_B1pswuhfetw/Slzx3o9s_iI/AAAAAAAAAaY/8wo2RF_O3Gw/s200/j0430526.jpg" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5358423594855366178" border="0" /></a>
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<br /><meta equiv="Content-Type" content="text/html; charset=utf-8"><meta name="ProgId" content="Word.Document"><meta name="Generator" content="Microsoft Word 11"><meta name="Originator" content="Microsoft Word 11"><link rel="File-List" href="file:///C:%5CDOCUME%7E1%5CCOMPAQ%7E1%5CLOCALS%7E1%5CTemp%5Cmsohtml1%5C01%5Cclip_filelist.xml"><!--[if gte mso 9]><xml> <w:worddocument> <w:view>Normal</w:View> <w:zoom>0</w:Zoom> <w:punctuationkerning/> <w:validateagainstschemas/> <w:saveifxmlinvalid>false</w:SaveIfXMLInvalid> <w:ignoremixedcontent>false</w:IgnoreMixedContent> <w:alwaysshowplaceholdertext>false</w:AlwaysShowPlaceholderText> <w:compatibility> <w:breakwrappedtables/> <w:snaptogridincell/> <w:wraptextwithpunct/> <w:useasianbreakrules/> <w:dontgrowautofit/> </w:Compatibility> <w:browserlevel>MicrosoftInternetExplorer4</w:BrowserLevel> </w:WordDocument> </xml><![endif]--><!--[if gte mso 9]><xml> <w:latentstyles deflockedstate="false" latentstylecount="156"> </w:LatentStyles> </xml><![endif]--><!--[if !mso]><object classid="clsid:38481807-CA0E-42D2-BF39-B33AF135CC4D" id="ieooui"></object> <style> st1\:*{behavior:url(#ieooui) } </style> <![endif]--><style> <!-- /* Style Definitions */ p.MsoNormal, li.MsoNormal, div.MsoNormal {mso-style-parent:""; margin:0in; margin-bottom:.0001pt; mso-pagination:widow-orphan; font-size:12.0pt; font-family:"Times New Roman"; mso-fareast-font-family:"Times New Roman";} @page Section1 {size:8.5in 11.0in; margin:1.0in 1.25in 1.0in 1.25in; mso-header-margin:.5in; mso-footer-margin:.5in; mso-paper-source:0;} div.Section1 {page:Section1;} --> </style><!--[if gte mso 10]> <style> /* Style Definitions */ table.MsoNormalTable {mso-style-name:"Table Normal"; mso-tstyle-rowband-size:0; mso-tstyle-colband-size:0; mso-style-noshow:yes; mso-style-parent:""; mso-padding-alt:0in 5.4pt 0in 5.4pt; mso-para-margin:0in; mso-para-margin-bottom:.0001pt; mso-pagination:widow-orphan; font-size:10.0pt; font-family:"Times New Roman"; mso-ansi-language:#0400; mso-fareast-language:#0400; mso-bidi-language:#0400;} </style> <![endif]-->So things aren't going as well as you hoped in your dating life?!
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<br /></p><p class="MsoNormal">Recently on her blog, <a href="http://annstrong.com/mentor-coaching-blog/bid/21145/?t=633784199979866121">Ann Strong</a> shared an amazing secret:
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<br /></p> <p style="font-weight: bold;" class="MsoNormal">How to feel anything you are missing, anytime, from the inside out!</p> <p class="MsoNormal"><o:p> </o:p></p> <p class="MsoNormal">
<br /></p><p class="MsoNormal">It was so smart, I had to share it with you.
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<br /></p><p class="MsoNormal">Here’s what she says:</p><p class="MsoNormal">
<br /></p> <p class="MsoNormal">“Working with the simple yet powerful concept that <span style="font-weight: bold;">I already have everything I need inside me</span>, I notice what’s causing the fear or anxiety and<span style="font-weight: bold;"> then find a way to know it from the inside rather than expect it from the outside.”</span></p><p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-weight: bold;">
<br /></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><o:p> </o:p></p> <p class="MsoNormal">Brilliant, brilliant, brilliant!</p> <p class="MsoNormal"><o:p> </o:p></p> <p class="MsoNormal">
<br /></p><p class="MsoNormal">Especially when it comes to attracting love!</p> <p class="MsoNormal"><o:p> </o:p></p> <p class="MsoNormal">
<br /></p><p class="MsoNormal">So, how to work this process?</p> <p class="MsoNormal"><o:p> </o:p></p> <p class="MsoNormal">
<br /></p><p class="MsoNormal">Let’s look at a common dating example.</p> <p class="MsoNormal"><o:p> </o:p></p> <p class="MsoNormal">
<br /></p><p class="MsoNormal">You’ve been trying online dating and you are getting zip, zero response. You log on for the millionth time and NOPE, still no tempting emails from sexy suitors.</p> <p class="MsoNormal"><o:p> </o:p></p> <p style="font-weight: bold;" class="MsoNormal">
<br /></p><p style="font-weight: bold;" class="MsoNormal">So, you tune inward and wonder: </p> <p class="MsoNormal">Why do I SO want to be “discovered” online?</p> <p class="MsoNormal">What will a hello email do for me?</p> <p class="MsoNormal"><o:p> </o:p></p> <p class="MsoNormal">
<br /></p><p class="MsoNormal">And you notice:</p> <p class="MsoNormal">I want to feel wanted! Loved!</p> <p class="MsoNormal">I want to feel attractive!</p> <p class="MsoNormal">I want to feel hope!</p> <p class="MsoNormal"><o:p> </o:p></p> <p class="MsoNormal">
<br /></p><p style="font-weight: bold;" class="MsoNormal">Great, so pick the one you would like to work with (or all of them): </p> <p class="MsoNormal">
<br /></p><p class="MsoNormal">How can you <span style="font-style: italic;">feel</span> loved, how can you <span style="font-style: italic;">be</span> Love, right now?</p> <p class="MsoNormal">How can you <span style="font-style: italic;">feel</span> attractive, how can you <span style="font-style: italic;">be</span> Beauty, right now?</p> <p class="MsoNormal">How can you<span style="font-style: italic;"> feel</span> hope, how can you <span style="font-style: italic;">be</span> <st1:personname st="on">Hope</st1:personname>, right now?</p> <p class="MsoNormal"><o:p> </o:p></p> <p class="MsoNormal">
<br /></p><p class="MsoNormal">Now, you may need to be creative next. But I am sure you can discover something, anything that helps you step into feeling loved, attractive, or hopeful! So, go do that now! </p> <p class="MsoNormal"><o:p> </o:p></p> <p class="MsoNormal">
<br /></p><p class="MsoNormal">- Maybe you always feel loved when you chat with your best friend, but it’s been too long- call her.</p> <p class="MsoNormal">- Maybe you embody love when you volunteer with homeless pets- get into action.</p> <p class="MsoNormal">- Maybe you feel beautiful when you put on that special red dress and go dancing- grab a friend and go.</p> <p class="MsoNormal">- Maybe sitting in a gorgeous flower garden helps you step into Beauty- GO!</p> <p class="MsoNormal">- Maybe listening to your favorite uplifting piece of music always inspires in you hope- put it on!</p> <p class="MsoNormal">- Maybe every time you tutor your niece, you both feel hopeful- get over there!</p> <p class="MsoNormal">
<br /></p><p class="MsoNormal">You get the idea!</p> <p class="MsoNormal"><o:p> </o:p></p> <p class="MsoNormal">
<br /></p><p class="MsoNormal">The beauty of this work is that you<span style="font-weight: bold;"> Take Back your Power</span>!</p> <p class="MsoNormal"><o:p> </o:p></p> <p style="font-weight: bold;" class="MsoNormal">
<br /></p><p style="font-weight: bold;" class="MsoNormal">You no longer accept being a “victim” of a withholding Universe.</p> <p style="font-weight: bold;" class="MsoNormal">You refuse to wait for something to happen to make you all right.</p> <p class="MsoNormal"><o:p> </o:p></p> <p class="MsoNormal">
<br /></p><p class="MsoNormal">The other gift of this work is that it immediately takes you out of a yucky, dark place into a sweet, light place.</p> <p class="MsoNormal"><o:p> </o:p></p> <p class="MsoNormal">
<br /></p><p class="MsoNormal">AND, of course, that’ll make you much more attractive to the opposite sex. Bringing you <span style="font-style: italic;">that</span> much closer to finding real love!
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<br /></p><p style="font-weight: bold;" class="MsoNormal">The key here is that once you shine something from within, it’ll show up on the outside in your life- ready to match what you already are!</p> <p class="MsoNormal">
<br /></p><p class="MsoNormal">So, take back your power and start living from the inside out today! Your love life will thank you!</p><p style="font-weight: bold;" class="MsoNormal">
<br /></p><p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-weight: bold;">Readers:</span> How has taking back your power helped something show up in your life? Please share!</p><p class="MsoNormal">
<br /></p><p class="MsoNormal">Read Ann's original post: <a href="http://annstrong.com/mentor-coaching-blog/bid/21145/?t=633784199979866121">Knowing my security from the inside</a>
<br /></p> Dr. Jennhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17033688263726004079noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4858723771721649617.post-87602081772430985912009-05-14T10:00:00.000-07:002009-05-14T10:00:01.630-07:00Is it Time for Spring Cleaning?: The Power of Completion<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_B1pswuhfetw/SgttHues0CI/AAAAAAAAAT0/t8fVSu7AOX4/s1600-h/anchor.jpg"><img style="margin: 0pt 0pt 10px 10px; float: right; cursor: pointer; width: 143px; height: 200px;" src="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_B1pswuhfetw/SgttHues0CI/AAAAAAAAAT0/t8fVSu7AOX4/s200/anchor.jpg" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5335478163053793314" border="0" /></a>
<br /><meta equiv="Content-Type" content="text/html; charset=utf-8"><meta name="ProgId" content="Word.Document"><meta name="Generator" content="Microsoft Word 11"><meta name="Originator" content="Microsoft Word 11"><link rel="File-List" href="file:///C:%5CDOCUME%7E1%5CCOMPAQ%7E1%5CLOCALS%7E1%5CTemp%5Cmsohtml1%5C01%5Cclip_filelist.xml"><o:smarttagtype namespaceuri="urn:schemas-microsoft-com:office:smarttags" name="PlaceType"></o:smarttagtype><o:smarttagtype namespaceuri="urn:schemas-microsoft-com:office:smarttags" name="PlaceName"></o:smarttagtype><o:smarttagtype namespaceuri="urn:schemas-microsoft-com:office:smarttags" name="place"></o:smarttagtype><!--[if gte mso 9]><xml> <w:worddocument> <w:view>Normal</w:View> <w:zoom>0</w:Zoom> <w:punctuationkerning/> <w:validateagainstschemas/> <w:saveifxmlinvalid>false</w:SaveIfXMLInvalid> <w:ignoremixedcontent>false</w:IgnoreMixedContent> <w:alwaysshowplaceholdertext>false</w:AlwaysShowPlaceholderText> <w:compatibility> <w:breakwrappedtables/> <w:snaptogridincell/> <w:wraptextwithpunct/> <w:useasianbreakrules/> <w:dontgrowautofit/> </w:Compatibility> <w:browserlevel>MicrosoftInternetExplorer4</w:BrowserLevel> </w:WordDocument> </xml><![endif]--><!--[if gte mso 9]><xml> <w:latentstyles deflockedstate="false" latentstylecount="156"> </w:LatentStyles> </xml><![endif]--><!--[if !mso]><object classid="clsid:38481807-CA0E-42D2-BF39-B33AF135CC4D" id="ieooui"></object> <style> st1\:*{behavior:url(#ieooui) } </style> <![endif]--><style> <!-- /* Style Definitions */ p.MsoNormal, li.MsoNormal, div.MsoNormal {mso-style-parent:""; margin:0in; margin-bottom:.0001pt; mso-pagination:widow-orphan; font-size:12.0pt; font-family:"Times New Roman"; mso-fareast-font-family:"Times New Roman";} p {mso-margin-top-alt:auto; margin-right:0in; mso-margin-bottom-alt:auto; margin-left:0in; mso-pagination:widow-orphan; font-size:12.0pt; font-family:"Times New Roman"; mso-fareast-font-family:"Times New Roman";} @page Section1 {size:8.5in 11.0in; margin:.7in 1.1in .7in 1.0in; mso-header-margin:.5in; mso-footer-margin:.5in; mso-paper-source:0;} div.Section1 {page:Section1;} --> </style><!--[if gte mso 10]> <style> /* Style Definitions */ table.MsoNormalTable {mso-style-name:"Table Normal"; mso-tstyle-rowband-size:0; mso-tstyle-colband-size:0; mso-style-noshow:yes; mso-style-parent:""; mso-padding-alt:0in 5.4pt 0in 5.4pt; mso-para-margin:0in; mso-para-margin-bottom:.0001pt; mso-pagination:widow-orphan; font-size:10.0pt; font-family:"Times New Roman"; mso-ansi-language:#0400; mso-fareast-language:#0400; mso-bidi-language:#0400;} </style> <![endif]-->Does it feel like something is holding your love life back, but you're not sure what?
<br /><p>You are probably being sabotaged by a <span style="font-weight: bold;">Lack of Completion.</span>
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<br /><span style="font-weight: bold;">When things from your past are not fully completed, it’s like there is a heavy anchor chaining you to the past, keeping you from moving full steam ahead to attract your soulmate.</span> </p> <p><span style="font-weight: bold;">Almost worst, it’s like you’ve left little pieces of yourself back there, so that now, you no longer feel whole, complete. </span>
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<br />In his book, <span style="font-weight: bold;">Five Wishes, Gay Hendricks</span> talks about his wish for "completion." For him that meant: "<span style="font-weight: bold;">As I go through life, there's nothing significant I leave unsaid or undone." </span></p> <p>On his healing journey- he goes back and says and does all of the things he knew he should have done- so that he could be in full integrity, in the present. He found that he felt 100 pounds lighter.</p> <p style="font-weight: bold; font-style: italic;">That lightness & wholeness is what you need to attract your soulmate. </p> <p>Without that completion, it’s like you’ve dropped dozens of small and larger anchors in the past- all sucking your energy, vitality, and your ability to be a soulmate magnet!</p> <p>So, it’s time for Spring Cleaning.</p> <p>But this will be unlike any spring cleaning you’ve done before!</p> <p style="font-weight: bold;">This spring, I challenge you to do a Completion Clean Up. </p> <p style="font-style: italic;">Our goal: To clean up anything that hasn’t been completed from your past. </p> <p>We’re not necessarily talking about all the things on your current To-Do list here. </p> <p>Similar to Gay Hendrick’s concept, we’re talking about all of the emotionally important things you’ve left unsaid and undone, ESPECIALLY related to past relationships. </p> <p>I’m encouraging you to wipe your love slate clean by creating closure in every major relationship you’ve ever had. If there is anything you still need to say or do, to once and for all, KNOW you’ve done what you needed to do- NOW is the time to do it!</p> <p>It’s only from a place clear of past attachments or weights, that we can generate the clarity and freedom to move forward and attract a healthy, happy love that lasts. Liberated from the chains of the past, completion will set you free to create soulmate love!</p> <p>I invite you to create your own <span style="font-weight: bold;">Completion List</span> now and act on it!</p><p><span style="font-weight: bold;">5 Steps to Completion</span>
<br /></p> <p>1. Write down a list of all of the major or emotionally significant relationships you’ve ever had in your life. (Or anything else that springs to mind that needs attention for closure.)</p> <p>2. One by one, consider your experiences with each person and wonder: </p> <p>Is there anything I’ve left unsaid or undone with this person?
<br />Is there anything that still feels bad to me about the way I’ve left it?
<br />Is there anything I need to do for closure?
<br />Is there anything I need to do to be in full integrity?</p> <p>3. Write down a clear statement of anything that needs completion. Include what you intend to do AND a date by which you commit to doing it.
<br /></p><p>If it's not possible to get in contact with someone- don't skip them! <meta equiv="Content-Type" content="text/html; charset=utf-8"><meta name="ProgId" content="Word.Document"><meta name="Generator" content="Microsoft Word 11"><meta name="Originator" content="Microsoft Word 11"><link rel="File-List" href="file:///C:%5CDOCUME%7E1%5CCOMPAQ%7E1%5CLOCALS%7E1%5CTemp%5Cmsohtml1%5C01%5Cclip_filelist.xml"><!--[if gte mso 9]><xml> <w:worddocument> <w:view>Normal</w:View> <w:zoom>0</w:Zoom> <w:punctuationkerning/> <w:validateagainstschemas/> <w:saveifxmlinvalid>false</w:SaveIfXMLInvalid> <w:ignoremixedcontent>false</w:IgnoreMixedContent> <w:alwaysshowplaceholdertext>false</w:AlwaysShowPlaceholderText> <w:compatibility> <w:breakwrappedtables/> <w:snaptogridincell/> <w:wraptextwithpunct/> <w:useasianbreakrules/> <w:dontgrowautofit/> </w:Compatibility> <w:browserlevel>MicrosoftInternetExplorer4</w:BrowserLevel> </w:WordDocument> </xml><![endif]--><!--[if gte mso 9]><xml> <w:latentstyles deflockedstate="false" latentstylecount="156"> </w:LatentStyles> </xml><![endif]--><style> <!-- /* Style Definitions */ p.MsoNormal, li.MsoNormal, div.MsoNormal {mso-style-parent:""; margin:0in; margin-bottom:.0001pt; mso-pagination:widow-orphan; font-size:12.0pt; font-family:"Times New Roman"; mso-fareast-font-family:"Times New Roman";} @page Section1 {size:8.5in 11.0in; margin:1.0in 1.25in 1.0in 1.25in; mso-header-margin:.5in; mso-footer-margin:.5in; mso-paper-source:0;} div.Section1 {page:Section1;} --> </style><!--[if gte mso 10]> <style> /* Style Definitions */ table.MsoNormalTable {mso-style-name:"Table Normal"; mso-tstyle-rowband-size:0; mso-tstyle-colband-size:0; mso-style-noshow:yes; mso-style-parent:""; mso-padding-alt:0in 5.4pt 0in 5.4pt; mso-para-margin:0in; mso-para-margin-bottom:.0001pt; mso-pagination:widow-orphan; font-size:10.0pt; font-family:"Times New Roman"; mso-ansi-language:#0400; mso-fareast-language:#0400; mso-bidi-language:#0400;} </style> <![endif]--> Try one of the following: do the process in your mind, have a ritual, write a letter you never send or have someone bear witness to what you wanted to say or do. </p> <p>4. After each time you do something on your list, make some notes about how it feels to have done that completion. </p> <p>Remember, a successful completion isn’t really about how the other person responds to you (you won’t always get a welcome reception!), but about YOU doing what YOU need for YOU to feel like YOU are in integrity. </p> <p>5. Once you’ve finished acting on your entire Completion List, it’s time to have a ritual to cut the chains from those heavily weighted past anchors and to call back all of the little pieces of yourself you left behind- so you stand free and whole in the Now. </p> <p>In fact, next <span style="font-weight: bold;">Monday, May 18</span><sup style="font-weight: bold;">th</sup><span style="font-weight: bold;">, at </span><st1:place style="font-weight: bold;" st="on"><st1:placename st="on">noon</st1:placename> <st1:placetype st="on">Mountain</st1:placetype></st1:place><span style="font-weight: bold;"> Time </span>we’ll be doing a <span style="font-weight: bold;">Completion Visualization</span> for Meditation Monday. If this idea of Completion is compelling to you, I encourage you to attend and get a jump start on your list. If you can’t make it, we’ll have it posted on the blog for you to listen to later. <a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/_B1pswuhfetw/SgtwPfLCoDI/AAAAAAAAAT8/VuRwpOQuun4/s1600-h/sailing.jpg"><img style="margin: 0pt 0pt 10px 10px; float: right; cursor: pointer; width: 200px; height: 131px;" src="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/_B1pswuhfetw/SgtwPfLCoDI/AAAAAAAAAT8/VuRwpOQuun4/s200/sailing.jpg" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5335481594918641714" border="0" /></a></p> <p>NEW Call In NUMBER: 218-862-7200
<br />Access Code : 909472</p> <p>This spring, create the space for clear sailing ahead! Give yourself the gift of a clean slate so you’ll be ready to attract your real soulmate and create the love you deserve!</p> <p><span style="font-weight: bold;">Readers:</span> Let me know how your Spring Completion Clean Up goes!! And if you run into any problems, I'll help you troubleshoot!</p> Dr. Jennhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17033688263726004079noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4858723771721649617.post-9818875120315795332009-05-13T13:37:00.000-07:002009-05-13T14:00:35.774-07:00Enjoy Effortless Being MeditationDid you know that trying TOO HARD, can actually keep you from finding love?<br /><br /><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/_B1pswuhfetw/SgswosJl86I/AAAAAAAAATk/uslADOfaD_Y/s1600-h/effortless.jpg"><img style="margin: 0pt 0pt 10px 10px; float: right; cursor: pointer; width: 200px; height: 134px;" src="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/_B1pswuhfetw/SgswosJl86I/AAAAAAAAATk/uslADOfaD_Y/s200/effortless.jpg" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5335411659154781090" border="0" /></a>Discover the power of effortless being- that place of grace where you let go of struggle and float in infinite trust that flows you right where you want to go!<br /><br />Your soulmate is waiting, stop working so hard to get there and you'll arrive much sooner!<br /><br />Listen now, 15 min.<br /><br /><div class="aaplayer"><iframe src="http://www.audioacrobat.com/playweb?audioid=P769687e371fddf05836986106425258aZVx%2FRHhuY2F0VQ&buffer=5&shape=6&fc=00CCFF&pc=6699FF&kc=66CCFF&bc=000099&brand=1&player=ap29" scrolling="no" width="138" frameborder="0" height="40"></iframe></div><br /><!-- AudioAcrobat.com Player code END --><span style="font-weight: bold;">Join us next Monday, May 18th for The Momentum of Completion</span><br /><br />Do you sometimes feel heavy? Weighted down?<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/_B1pswuhfetw/Sgs0WBJR6II/AAAAAAAAATs/Ptbc0Kt5V3M/s1600-h/anchor.jpg"><img style="margin: 0pt 0pt 10px 10px; float: right; cursor: pointer; width: 143px; height: 200px;" src="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/_B1pswuhfetw/Sgs0WBJR6II/AAAAAAAAATs/Ptbc0Kt5V3M/s200/anchor.jpg" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5335415736419608706" border="0" /></a><br />Like something is holding you back, but you are not sure what?<br /><br />You are probably being sabotaged by a Lack of Completion.<br /><br />When things from your past are fully completed, you are free to move full steam ahead to attract your soulmate!<br /><br />Come sever the anchors holding you back, and discover the light, free, and energized way of being that comes from Full Completion!<br /><br />Noon, Mountain Time<br />**** NEW Call In NUMBER: 218-862-7200<br />Access Code : 909472Dr. Jennhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17033688263726004079noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4858723771721649617.post-930536508912316992009-05-04T10:21:00.000-07:002009-05-04T11:33:32.262-07:00Join Us for: Effortless Being<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_B1pswuhfetw/Sf801yN7e9I/AAAAAAAAATc/d0zDq1Nd5r0/s1600-h/effortless+being.jpg"><img style="margin: 0pt 0pt 10px 10px; float: right; cursor: pointer; width: 200px; height: 160px;" src="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_B1pswuhfetw/Sf801yN7e9I/AAAAAAAAATc/d0zDq1Nd5r0/s200/effortless+being.jpg" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5332038582447864786" border="0" /></a>You're invited to join us next Monday, April 4th, for another transformative and powerful Meditation.<br /><br />I'll be leading: <span style="font-weight: bold;">Effortless Being</span><br /><br />Is your life full of effort? Full of struggle? Yet, you're not getting anywhere?<br /><br />That's because all the stress of straining actually gets in your way of attaining your heart's desire.<br /><br />Join us, to discover the power of effortless being- that place of grace where you let go of struggle and float in infinite trust that flows you right where you want to go!<br /><br />Your soulmate is waiting, stop working so hard to get there and you'll arrive much sooner!<br /><br />Noon, Mountain Time<br />Call In: 218-844-0870<br />Access: 355622#Dr. Jennhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17033688263726004079noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4858723771721649617.post-75670168250701021252009-04-27T10:42:00.000-07:002009-05-04T10:21:38.695-07:00Listen to Meditation: Access Your Inner Wise Woman!<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_B1pswuhfetw/SfXwHCIkVWI/AAAAAAAAATU/66FjsN3B5sY/s1600-h/dress+lady+mountaintop.jpg"><img style="margin: 0pt 0pt 10px 10px; float: right; cursor: pointer; width: 91px; height: 138px;" src="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_B1pswuhfetw/SfXwHCIkVWI/AAAAAAAAATU/66FjsN3B5sY/s200/dress+lady+mountaintop.jpg" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5329429737685407074" border="0" /></a>Are you ready to <span style="font-weight: bold;">Access Your Inner Wise Woman </span>for all of the strength, wisdom, and courage you need?<br /><br />Join us on this delightful meditation journey guided by Carole Cross of <a href="http://www.wisewomen.org/">www.wisewomen.org. </a><br /><br />In 2 minutes, a part of our call helped me release a chronic pain I've been struggling with for a week!<br /><br />Listen now: 27 minutes<br /><!-- AudioAcrobat.com Player code BEGIN --><br /><div class="aaplayer"><iframe src="http://www.audioacrobat.com/playweb?audioid=P65434f4a5b48a92db8634f53ea5c34a6ZVx%2FRHhuY2J8Vg&buffer=5&shape=6&fc=00CCFF&pc=6699FF&kc=66CCFF&bc=000099&brand=1&player=ap29" scrolling="no" width="138" frameborder="0" height="40"></iframe></div>Dr. Jennhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17033688263726004079noreply@blogger.com0